From everything falling in place to everything falling apart.

I just received a call from the Administrator from solutions.  I got very excited when I had received the message that she wanted me to contact her to help figure out what steps we are taking next.  To my shock, I find out that Dr. O'Bryan's Psych report gave them doubts on my ability to cope with the surgery and they have now officially put it off until further notice!!!   When I went to O'Bryan, I told him about my issues with my family, about my abuse as a child, and whatnot.  He told me specifically that I was good to go, although he recommended that I continue with my therapy as soon as possible.  Now, I get this phone call that he had changed the wording of his diagnosis, stating that I should get therapy BEFORE even being considered for surgery.  My doctor pretty much thinks now that I will not be able to cope with surgery and now won't touch me until I get the clear from either my former therapist or another psychologist.  I am beyond upset.  My wife and I scraped up the money to pay for Dr. O'Bryan's services, he stated I was good to go.. and now this.  I dont know what I am going to do now.  Everything was falling in place so nicely..   My insurance, everything.. now this happens.  Sorry.. I know I am new.. but I really needed to vent.  I'm so frustrated.\ Rob

Rob, Yes it is a set back but DON"T GIVE UP!!! That is exactly what they think you will do. Fight it. Go back to that O'Bryan and ask him what the deal is. Why he told you that you were good to go then change it suddenly. It is totally unfair and you deserve to know what happened. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers that everything will go much better for you!!!

Brenda Oh yeah... don't worry about venting! That is what we all are here for. To share the good AND the bad with you.

Definitely go talk to Dr. O. Find out if there was an error in what was sent or if they are misinterpreting it on the other end. I think if he was going to send a negative report, he would have told you. He certainly wouldn't have led you to believe something contrary to what he was going to recommend. Hopefully you found him to be very easy to talk to and that is why you felt comfortable opening up to him. He did my psych eval and I know I was very comfortable with him. Call him. I really think there is either an error or misunderstanding here. Whatever you do, DO NOT GIVE UP!!!!!!!!!!!! I believe this will happen for you. Vent away honey, that's what we are here for. Susan

Rob ~ I am in 100% agreement with Susan. Tthis has got to be a case of miscommunication. I, too, had my psych eval w/ Dr. O.  I find it odd that he would tell you one thing, then report something else back to your administrator. He doesn't seem like a run-around kinda guy. either there was a mistake in what was sent over, or there's misinterpretation on the other end. If he told you everything was good to go, everything's good to go as far as he's concerned. Call him tomorrow morning and I'm sure they will get to the bottom of this.

Bless your heart. I know that was a devastating blow. But don't give up --- and don't apologize for venting! that's why we're here! Keep us posted, as I'm sure good news is on the horizon...    ~ Tara

Hang in there Rob!  What ever you do, DON'T GIVE UP!   I am agreement with earlier post, call Dr. O and talk with him!  Hang in ther Bro!  Prayers being lifted as I type.

Thanks for the support everyone.. I appreciate it greatly.  I managed to call my Therapist and leave a message with Dr. O'bryan but I didnt hear from him.  My therapist plans on releasing my records to Solutions and to find out what is required to clear me, if I cannot get things resolved between Dr. O'Bryan and me.  I've come too far to give up now. Rob

Rob I will say that they only have your best interest at heart... I know it seems like such a roadblock to the one thing that can help you most... but really you do need to be ready in all areas and ways...  if you do need some more therapy, that is do-able.  Might prolong things a bit longer, but overall it will be a positive for you.    Hang in there!

Hang in there. There are always stumps in the road. I have been trying over a yr. Best of luck. Ellen

Hang in there, Rob!  The road to approval is rocky sometimes.  It's like you really have to work for it.  I cried more in the 6-months before my surgery than I ever have in my entire life!  But when things were the way they were supposed to be...everything fell into place.  I had to switch doctors at the last minute.  Even though I was scared to death...it was the right thing.  I honestly believe that everything happens for a reason.  Unfortunately, we don't get to know the reason. Just keep a level head and handle the situation. :)  Happy Friday! Freddie

Hello Rob,

I don't know you but I do have some pennies to throw in. Stay positive. Those are my words for success. I thought I was all prepared for my place on the losers bench this year but got delayed because my insurance had added a nice new speed bump, that required yet another 6-month dr supervised diet. I have followed that and then on top of that the surgeon that I had chosen is not accepting patients with my insurance that have a BMI above 50. See, things kept getting better for me, but I am persistent about this matter and I will reach the goals that some of us think at times are not obtainable. I will succeed and I will have a better life, just as you and all of the rest of us that are still looking to have our tools endowed upon us.

I have completed my diet and have found another surgeon that I think will be worth every mile of the drive, but he's accepting my insurance with no BMI limitations.

The best of luck to you!



Diane