Here's a question about WLS.

For being a fat ass for so long and slowly hating who I have become and not being able to love myself for a long time, this question is for all of you that have had the surgery and have lost an outstanding amount of weight…..

 

 

When do you start loving yourself again?

 

When I get there I'll let you know. I still have issues with myself but have come a long way, I no longer hate myself and my confidence is slowly building over time and I am 16 months out and minus 184 lbs.  I also have to agree with what someone said or wrote to me, somewhere I had to believe I was worth it to have the surgery and want a better life for myself, so it all starts there.

I am like Juanita, I'll let you know when I get there.  I do feel better about myself but I still have a ways to go.  I think that it why it is so important to see a therapist during this journey.  Remember this surgery is on your stomach and not your mind so you have to work on that seperate as well. Darlene

I am still learning.  I have met goal and had my tummy tuck.  Still healing but still also dealing with food issues but I do like myself much better than I used to.  That's probably  not a great answer, but the only one I know to give...  I do take better care of myself.  I feel I am worth it.  But as for "loving" myself... I am allowing myself to be loved by other people though where before I never would have been able to accept it.

"I am allowing myself to be loved by other people though where before I never would have been able to accept it."
Thanks Ladies,yall give me hope.

HEY I AGREE WITH EVERYONE IT TAKES TIME. HOW IS THE NOT SMOKING GOING?                                                      SUE

There are days when I love myself alot, and then there are days where I still self loathe!  counseling has helped alot.  it is a progression.  part of the journey.

I don't know how to answer that loaded question.  I think it will take time to learn.  I know I have more self confidence in me.  I know what I want in my life now, where as I didn't know even where I was going in my life. I found it hard to love because I couldn't love myself first.  Now I can give love back freely because I can now love myself.  I take better care of myself now.  Even with the moisturizers, and the anti-wrinkle stuff.  I enjoy those long relaxing baths more now, where as before I couldn't even sit in a tub.  I want to look sharp when I go out, where before I could careless.  I am 20 months out, tummy has been done, and thighs are being done in October.  I don't care that I have flabby arms or no breasts.  I'm almost 54 and a grandma, I'm supposed to have some flabby arms and droppy breasts.  But I love being able to enjoy and play with my grandsons more then I could before.  When you start loving yourself and taking better care of yourself, you will realize that you do care more for yourself and want to give love and receive it.  When the weight is gone, and people start noticing you more instead of ignoring you, it really helps to boost your confidence and ego.  Then you will say to yourself, I'm worth it.  I worked hard to get where I am, and I'm worth every minute to get where I am, then you will start to love yourself more.   Talking with a psychologist really helps to deal with the emotional level just as the surgeons and other Dr.'s have worked on the physical part.  You need that balance on the emotional side too.  G you will know when you start loving yourself.  It just takes time.  Remember it took a long time to hate yourself enough to want to do something about it, it will take time to learn how to love yourself again.

Guess what? You are loved so much, and you will just have to learn to accept it. God always loves you, and each of us. Imagine that... fat or thin. I kinda think when my belly goes down, even though I know the skin will be stretched... That might be a good time to say... I'm loving myself today. :)