I Need Some Fresh Opinions/Advice!

For those of you who know me well, you know the financial situation I will be in until I graduate next year and go back to work.  Those of you who don't know me, things are tight and will be so for another year.  Taking that into consideration, I would love some advice. I have an opportunity I am pondering.  My best friend, Jeremy, has a huge house with an amazing upstairs and a full basement.  He knows my father is giving me a hard time living here above my parents and he has told me that if we moved in with him, he would give us the entire upstairs, the basement, Savannah could have the downstairs bedroom, we would have the downstairs bathroom, and would only have to share the kitchen.  He only wants half the utilities and for us to mow his large lawn for him.  I love him dearly and we spend a lot of time together as it is.  We hashed out every possible detail we could think of, pets, privacy, decorating, cleaning, laundry, you name it, we talked about it.  My gut tells me it would be good, Eddie is not so sure.  I am miserable here, having to hear my father tell me how much money he is losing letting me stay here...and he charges us $250 a month and we pay the cable, which is another $84.  Jeremy's utility bills run $150 and while I know it would go up with us there, we would still only have to pay half.  We wouldn't have to pay to hook up anything since he has it all already hooked up, we would only have to do an address change at the post office.  I love the idea but I would still like to get other opinions.  Taking into consideration that I am currently living with my parents, I just wonder if it would be better.  I know no one can make the decision for me but I'd love some opinions.

Hi there.......... who is Eddie?

Adrienne, Eddie is her husband!!!! Shelia

Lol I should have read her profile. TY Sheila

I experienced a similar situation, but in reverse.  My husband was living and working in another state while I taught in Kentucky.  During the summers my daughter and I went to Ga. to spend the summer with him.  I asked a family friend who was going through a difficult time and separated from his family because of work, to live in my house during the summer.  He took care of my dogs for me, mowed the grass, and kept everything up while we were gone.  It was a good situation for all of us.  In fact, when school started and Liz and I came back home, he continued to live there with us until his family was able to join him in January.  It turned into a very positive situation for all of us.  Everyone involved knew what the situation was for the other and while I'm sure the neighbors were perplexed, I always have enjoyed making them wonder!  Small minds don't take much to be overworked!

It's so good to hear from someone who has been in a really similar place...it gives me confidence to make the right decision.  Thanks so much!

Kym, I think if you, Eddie and Jeremy can make a plan that all of you are comfortable with then go for it.  I think if you moved you would be happier and of course that would make Eddie and your little one happy as well.  Just make sure you & Eddie talk it out and he is comfortable with it.  I will pray that God leads you to the right decision.   Darlene

From a man’s view, I would give you some advice if you’re going to be sharing common living space with two men. From the look of your picture I’m guessing that you and Eddie are a bit young.

 

Nevertheless if Jeremy gay,straight,bi…. Be extra aware and sensitive that Eddie will at some point become jealous.

 

At firs****ch how you act, what you wear, et****il Eddie/ everyone gets adjusted to the arrangement.  

 

Boys do not like to share.

 

Thanks so much for your perspective...I was really hoping to get an objective guy's view on this.  Thanks for the compliment too...actually, I just turned 35 on Tuesday so while I'm not old, I have a hard time considering myself young, lol!

Don't tell Eddie or my wife that I said this, but you look young and Hot but I guess you get that all the time now. Enjoy it you worked hard for it.