I've changed!

Yesterday I was told that I have changed in the way I respond to "some" people. Now, I have been told that I seem much happier and more outgoing. This is the first time I have been told that I have become much more "direct" in dealing with "some" people. I asked the person who told me this if I had been rude and she said that she didn't see it as rude. I had just had a conversation with her office mate about a situation that happened last week. The lady was whining about how my boss had spoken with her and I let her know that I had heard the conversation and he did not say what she quoted him as saying. The other lady (Jeannette) in the office told me later that the first person (Connie) had continued to whine about how I have changed after I left the room. Jeannette told me that she and another worker in the dept have talked about the change in me. He told her that he sees it as improved self esteem, I don't take the crap I used to take from "some people". She (Jeannette) told me that she thinks I am now saying things to these people that I have wanted to say for a long time but instead kept my mouth shut and took their abuse. I don't feel bad about sticking up for myself (and my boss). I just don't want to do so in a rude or mean way. She assured me that was not the case though the person on the receiving end didn't see it that way. Former doormats unite!!! I am a person and I will not be walked on anymore!!!!!!!!!

Whoo Hoo!! You Go Girl!! I agree you correction we should not tolerate anyone walking over us! Maybe the person is aware she told a fib and anrgy you called her on it and therefore defense comes into play and she turned it against you to shift focus from herself. I wouldn't worry about it. You did not say anything with the intent to cause hurt feelings. If we do not stick up for ourselves or the people we believe in who will???

Hi Susan! . I think it is great that you are sticking up for yourself and others. I think it is just self confidence now that you have lost weight. When I was bigger, I never admitted to lacking self confidence but I find myself saying and doing things now that I do not think I would have before because I am more confident. At my old job (when I was larger) I was very intimidated because I was a young overweight female working with older men with suits and power. I did my job really well but I was not as confident. Everyone felt it necessary to "compliment" me on a job well done. I think because I was shyer and they felt I was naïve and needed it (although I never did -I just do not have that type of personality that needs compliments at a job). But now, I could care less who you are, I am not intimidated. And I think it is great. It is very Empowering! And it is definantley not a bad thing! Misty

Susan While you were on a roll... you should have continued as to how gossip should not be tolerated among the workplace as it sows discord and strife. Ha! That would have shoved a sock in their mouths!!! I know what you mean... you just get sick of taking people's doody crap. Good for you!!!!