Being really stressed out right now.

Hello Friends, Been going through some things lately. Since last Friday I have been getting call's from my gentleman suiter, we agreed to be friends. He has been calling me three to four times a day. I have only gotten to talk to him about twice and the phone calls last for two to three hours. After that I have been really busy with my family. I have been running around places to places for my mother who is a heart patient and helping my father with the house. Then I have been helping my cousin who is recovering from a nervous breakdown and preparing the house for my nephew's weeklong visit too. I have been dropping in bed only to be awaken 10 minutes later. When I do get to get some sleep it is at 7:00 am in the morning and only to be awaken at 10:00 am in the morning again. I am about to drop. My sister is breathing down my neck about not getting to return this weeks call from My new gentleman friend from Friday's date. I am not trying to be rude I have been really busy. I have accepted phones from him at 1:00 am in the morning only to get off at 3:00 am and then I would have my cousin calling me. My sister is calling me and telling me that I am hurting his feelings and she will not bring anymore of her friends around again. First of all I did not ask her to bring him to dinner when I invited her and her boyfriend so the family can get to know her boyfriend better. I am being nice and trying to be a good friend/sister/daugther/cousin/ aunt. But I have a lot on my plate so to speak right now. I do call my sister before I leave to go and get this and that for my mother or father. And when I get back to make sure she does not get to upset at her job. And when I am wake and about to leave. I never get to sit down much anymore. I am always on the run. I wish I was two but I am only one. And I can not seem to tell anyone No. So I am being over worked right now. I am so tired. The last few nights I have been lucky. I got to write to my friends here for a little piece of mind.I have set some time off this weekend to call my new gentleman friend. But my sister is really making me mad. She act's like because I am not working right now and that i am taking care of my disable parents and helping my cousin recover too is nothing. I am so really stressed. I can not wait until I get to go on vacation. I think I am in need of one. Do anyone of you think I am being rude? What would you all suggest I should do for a little rest and relaxtion? I am really trying to get time in with everyone but I think I am doing more harm than good. I am just stressed. Any suggestion on dealing with my sister. and my gentleman friend caller would be really acceptable for me at this point. I know with my parents and my cousin they come first they are blood and family comes first. Your help will be helpful I am willing to listen to any suggestion. Your friend, Tina

Tina, I don't think you are being rude at all. What you need to do is just turn your phone off and get some sleep. You can not please everyone especially if you are not able to function due to lack of sleep. Even though it is hard you have to put yourself and Your Health FIRST!! Without your health you have no life no friends no family no nothing!!!! Take care of YOU and then sit down or just do a mental inventory and list your priorities. Your family and friends are very important and if they care about you then they will understand that you need some rest and time for yourself!!! {{ hUGGS}}

You have got to take care of yourself. You can't get run down... In my opinion, and this is just me, and I can't speak for anyone else, but I need more rest and less stress since surgery. It takes a long time to fully recuperate after any type of surgery, but my body just can't handle all that stress anymore... you need to draw some boundaries and get yourself in a position where you can rest and enjoy life... You need to havea talk witih your sister... and everyone else it seems like, and mainly, most importantly, set a time where unless it is an absolute emergency, don't cal in the middle of the night... YOU Have got to get your sleep. That's a biggie... I dont think you are being rude. Sounds to me like you have an obsessive "friend" who is using your sister to get what he wants. OK Maybe I'm wrong. I apologize if I am, but the whole thing just seems kind of strange to me... he's calling you ALL the time, wanting you to be accessible at his every waking (and your non-waking) whim... then if you don't talk to him, sis comes around.. (OK Melinda will shut up now). Am I the only one that thinks this is strange??

Melinda R, Thank you and from alot of replies I recieved I should turn off the phone. I have done that and will keep on doing that. I have also talked to my parents today about not waking me for the phone and do not give me the phone if my pesty new friend calls. My father said he was getting worried about me too. As a matter of fact my mother has answered the phone while I rested today and let my sister have it. She told my sister if she wanted someone to date her friend maybe she should and stop pushing. She also told my sister that my pesty new friend is starting to act like a stalker. And not to mention him to me again. He is making me upset and nervous and sick to my stomach with worry. My mother put it really to my sister. My sister would not listen to me. But she did when my mother and father both told her to stop it. I thought it worked but my pesty new friend called me at 12:00 p.m. I did not answer the phone. I actually when back to bed for some more much needed sleep. It felt so good. I have let my health go for awhile. It was getting where stress was making my stomach hurt too. And I have started getting sick from my protien bars again and I could barely lift my head today. So I am taking this weekend to really get some much need rest and pay more attention to my health. Thank you for your concern. I was thinking that he was trying to take over my every move. I told my sister and she would only say he is just lonely. My sister would not listen to me, but she did my parents. It is so funny that at my age my parents still have to step in and fight my battles against my sister. Weird and funny too. But I think they know things were spinning out of control for me lately and this is they're way of helping. And it really did work for me. I feel so much better that they did it. I am going to take all your advice to heart and listen really well. Thank you again. Your friend, Tina Cannon

Tina, Dont forget to take care you in all this. If you are sick and down, you cant help take care of anyone else. Darlene

Darlene Hughes, Thank you for your consideration and concern. I think I am going to get my rest this weekend. I have been pushing myself. I have started getting sick from my protien bars and getting where i can not lift my head much. I am staying tired too much. I am going to rest this weekend. Thank you again. Your friend, TinaCannon