Negative reactions to weight loss from others...

April, We have probably all had this experience, if we think about it. I had a couple of friends (or those who I thought were friends) that said I was no longer as fun as I had been when I was fat. Go figure. needless to say, I dont spend time with those friends anymore. Sorry it came from your mom,, I know that would really hurt me too. Hugs & Prayers Darlene

Hi April. Sorry to hear about the statement from your mom. I think people close to us, especially moms, know exactley what to say to hurt us when they need to. And for us WLS patients, it is the weight loss issue that they are going to use. One time my mom, who I confronted on an issue, said that "not everyone can be as perfect as you (meaning me) and that I act better than everyone else". It took me a little bit to get over it but I eventually did because she is my mother and I know that she has her own problems and like most people, if you bring up their problems - even it is to help them - they will retailiate with something to hurt you. I hope you can "turn your head" to your moms comment soon. Just realize that she wanted to hurt you at that time and that is the only way she knew how. Life is too short! You are doing great on your weight loss and your health so keep up the great work and don't let anybody detour you from what is best for you in your life. Misty

I'm sorry April. Perhaps Susan is right, your mom just used what she could to kind of make that jab... But I am sure she loves you very much and I hope she sends you an apology. You are doing wonderful, fantastic, excellent, and look dang good girl! At the end of the day when you lay your head on the pillow... no one can take that from you... its something you did on your own... a great accomplishment!

Hello April, I am new but had to comment. I agree with Susan and just know you are not alone many of us have parents that are irresponsible in many ways. I feel as if I have always been raising my mom. She herself gets defensive anytime we confront her on her behavior. My son had been staying with her because he did not want to attend Antioch High. When he chose to move back she sent him b-day card with inappropriate comments in it and really hurt his feelings bad. Then as if that wasn't enough she sent a second set of letters one to me and one to him that we got the day my gramps passed and when my sister confronted her about her behavior and that I was under enough pressure with my upcoming surgery, work and gramps passing she flipped out on my sister. Just know that for me as bad as it sounds and as hard as it is you have to set boundaries and then stick by them even if they hurt. I have heard nothing but negative about how fat I am from everyone that I thought they would be happy for me when I did this but now they act like I am doing something wrong and still talk mess about me for choosing it. I don't care I am choosing life! Be proud of you... I am proud of you! You have worked hard and changed your life! Way to go!