Post wls poll...be honest now:)

Ok, I'm in a weird mood. First of all, let me say, I am a very happily married woman who would never even think of messing around on Adam. I don't even joke in a nasty way with another guy cause there is a line u just don't cross. Before I met Adam I had boyfriends, well, flames maybe. Boyfriend is such a strong word. Most of the guys I dated were ok with my weight. I was around 250-260 back then. There were some that after I got to know them I realized that even though I was good enough for "somethings" I wasn't good enough, or they didn't think I was, for a serious take me home to meet the family type relationship. Back then I believed this crap also cause I didn't have alot of self confidence. Now I know I was good enough, no matter my weight. I'm still the same person. Well, I've grown up alot. But since losing weight I realize that these people were the ones with the problem. They accepted me on some levels but not all. I was and still am a good hearted, nice person. I got lucky to find Adam who loved me then as I was and loves me now even though I'm spoiled and can be tempermental. My poll, or my thoughts for the night (since I'm bored and he's at work. Did u have anyone in your past that thought u were good enough on some levels but maybe not all? Or did they make u feel that way? They're aren't really any certain guys I'd like to go up to now and do the whole Toby Keith theme to his song "How do u like me now?" Well, maybe one. But I wouldn't seek him out. Even if Adam and I were to ever run into him I'd never be rude or say something stupid like that. No matter how he hurt me. The past is in the past. My point is, now that u have lost weight, do u have someone that maybe u wouldn't really do this, but in your mind do u have someone u'd like to run up too and say "How do ya like me now?" Night ya'll Ange

My advice would be if Adam loved you before & after WLS I would let the past go. As you said they had the problem. And, if you are like me I was the in-secure one that thought everyone thought less of me. I hope I said that right. Give Adam a big hug & tell him how special he is. Ellen

Oh I hope I'm not giving the impression that I'm hanging on to the past. I didn't mean too. I'm just being silly. I'm just saying that more than likely for those of us who have been morbidly obese there has most likely been someone, maybe not a old flame or whatever, but someone who's treated us differently because of our weight. I know I've gotten judged before on my looks for being overweight. I'm just in a bored silly mood. Adam knows I love him and theres no way I'd run looking for someone just to rub it in their faces how wrong they were. I was insecure but not anymore. I'm happier with myself than I ever have been. Sorry, I hope I didn't give the wrong impression with this. I'm just being silly! Hugs Ange I'll hug him in the am when he gets home from work lol.

Oh, Yes, there is one guy in particular...actually, there are two but only one that really irks me even to this day. I too am married and happily for the most part, lol, for nearly ten years. But...this guy...ooooohhhhhhh. Here's the story in short form...I loved him with all my heart, wouldv'e married him in a heartbeat. We were just friends. He started hanging with this skank and I couldn't handle it so I wrote him a letter telling him I loved him and I would not be a good friend to him if I hung around so goodbye. Well, fast forward ten years. Two years ago, he shows up at a mutual friend's house looking for me. He married the skank (I'm not a child, she really was skanky), divorced her and realized he was wrong. He had loved me as well but because of my weight, was embarrassed to be with me. WHATTTTT?????? Oh, but now he is grown up (he was 27 then!) and realizes that looks are not important. Hello? He might as well have said it was okay that I was ugly!!! Well, I hate to be so immature, but if I could run into him in a few months...when I reach goal...then yes, I would love to see the look on his face. And the sad thing is that I always thought it was my fault, if I'd just been smaller, prettier, etc. Now, thank you Jesus!!!!, I realize that he was the sad one...and look at him now, alone and pining for someone he will never have! So, to answer your question, yes, I think if we are all honest, there is someone in everyone's life we would love to say, "How ya like me now?!" You go girl with your fine self and love being able to love yourself now regardless of other's petty crap!!!!!

Why are people like that? I mean, good grief, beauty is on the inside. When I was bigger. Well I should start with I worked at a truck stop off I 65 up here in Ky. It was a small fuel stop. I was always hearing "oh you've got such a pretty face" "oh your eyes are so beautiful" Well they never said the rest of me was pretty. We had the same drivers down in and day out and my "past" was actually from Nashville. This guy was a ups driver. He was in every day. He was, or so I thought a good friend to me. He was also alot older than me but it didn't bother me. He treated me like he actually cared about me and after our relationship got physical ( and I was nuts about this guy for so long) I just lost him. Our friendship was over. All at once I was only good enough for "one thing". One of the other drivers, a sweet older feller, put it in perspective for me one day. I thought that I loved this guy. He was my world for awhile. After our relationship went from friends to, not friends but, well I don't know what it was but he made me feel like a ho he'd stop in and see on his lunch break, I didn't tell anyone else about it. But one of the older guys came in one day. I was sitting there talking to him while he ate lunch and I must have been staring off into space cause he said "oh don't be so sad, he'll be back" I just looked at him like what, I said who? He said the guys name and said he'll be back when he's horny. Well that just flattened me. I loved him and while we were just friends I could have sworn he cared for me but he made me feel so cheap and just like I wasn't good enough for a serious relationship. Our physical relationship, if u can call it that, didn't last over a month. Our friendship was never the same. So, would I like to see him? I don't sit around and dwell on it but yes, he is the one that if we ever came across him somewhere I'd love to see his mouth drop open. I'm lucky to have a husband who loved me then and loves me now. He knows about this guy, he knows all about my past. He also knows I'd love to see this one, just to see that mouth come open. After he made me feel "not good enough" I'd love to see him just once. But if I don't ever see him again and its been almost 8 yrs, its no big deal. Didn't mean to ramble so much, I should have just said, yep I know what ya mean! Hugs Ange

I dont have a lot to say along these lines... but I have only had one boyfriend in my adult life. None in my teen years. One in my early 20's. So my thought has always been that I'm fat, I'm not pretty, no one loves me, no one wants me. I am hoping now that I have lost weight, those thoughts can be dispelled and that I can believe and experience a relationship.

U r pretty! I never had boyfriends in school. I think that is one reason when I started at that little truck stop and some of the drivers would flirt with me, it turned my head. I never had a boyfriend, I never believed I was pretty or that I even would have a boyfriend. I was wrong. I think u r very pretty. I also believe that even if I hadn't lost weight I was still good enough for some of these idiots who made me feel like I wasn't. I think u r a beautiful lady and I know there is some special person out there for u. Ange

Hi Angela, As Melanie said there's always going to be someone that we want to say that too. Mine would be the 11 surgeons and 2 psychs who denied me of having the surgery. But Dr. Colquitt was there for me. Even having leukemia, he was there to give me a better chance of living healthier. For that he will always be tops in my book. I would love to go to those other surgeons and say you denied me, saying I was unstable, what do you think of me now. Someone special gave me life. But I am not openly seeking them out. They are the past and tho my future may be cut short, I am living today and it's a gift each morning to just wake up. Let those from the past, deal with their own insecurities, you are better then them 10 times over. Always, kathy

Hi Kathy, how are u? I'm just being silly. I wouldn't actually run out to anyone and say ha ha ha look at me now. My point was just that like u say, all of us have at some point in time been in some way treated differently because of our weight or like u, your health. I was just bored last night and in one of those silly moods. I get like that sometimes. I can be a fruit loop! Take care Ange Hop on up on the ky board sometime and say hey! I'm always dropping in down here on our 2nd home state lol and bugging u guys!

Ange, Very truthfully, I would love to put in a jab, not on an ex but on all those girls and guys that snickered, out right laughed at me, mooed when I walked by. I think you get the picture. I didnt go to my 10 year reunion because I didnt like those people when I was in school with them, so why should I pretent to now. I will be going to my 20 year reunion just to show them. I havent really thought about those folks in a while, so I must finally be getting to a place where I dont rely on what other people think. Darlene