Thanks for your reply and congradulations, Jay!  I've read a lot of your posts because your situation seems similar to my daughter's and I'm very excited to read your post-surgery comments.  (I'm originally from Oxford, MS...we Mississippians gotta stick together!)

Thank you so much for your reply!  I know she is anxious and I am excited for her, but I would hate for her grades to suffer from having to miss too much work.

hi Cynthia I just read your story @ your son, I think that is great! I have a 16 year old he's 5'7"and 250plus lbs.We've done diets like low cal/low fat,he;s always playing sports,basketball,football, baseball,and he walks almost everyday.He's been on a diet half his life because doctors have told me since he was a baby to put him on diets. In high school he's miserable,has low self esteem.The girls are ruthless and relentless with anyone overweight,especially teen boys.Girls think he's cute buuuut you know your a great friend but "i can't go out with you",I had RNY april 08and I'm down a little over 80 lbs.My son is like you had surgery to help you,& I always remind him to eat less, no sugar, exercise more but he's only lost 4 lbs & I don't know how else to help him.He's playing baseball on the freshman team & hates that he gets left out all the time because of his size.I wish he could have the "Band" so he would be heathier,& more free to be a teen and have a great time in highschool.the pedi doc's have watched over him since he was a baby.9lbs 7oz,head 17cm,shoulders25cm just a big kid and i feel hopeless.You have any suggestions on  how to help?I hope your son lives to his highest potential,and understands how lucky he is.

veronica

I am just coming to this board because of my step daughter.  I am having VSG on Nov 29th and as soon as I told my mother in law (her grandmother) she asked me if I had talked to her about it yet.  She is going to be 15 in a week and wears a women's 24.  I am not sure how much she weighs and this is sensitive since I am the step parent.  We have a great relationship (I married her dad when she was 4) and talk about weight issues together but I don't feel like I can push too much.  My DH's family has so many health issues that I worry (type 2 diabetes, cancer, high cholesterol, high blood pressure, Colan cancer) that I really worry about her.  she has developed asthma and is on both steroids and an inhaler to control it.  She is aware of her weight issue and "diets" off an on.  Her mom went with her to a couple of weight loss programs (they are both overweight although the daughter is now larger)  but nothing is really working.  I am at a total loss as of what to do.  I want to help her.  I was thin as a teen and high school is hard enough then.  I can not even begin to imagine it that overweight.  Any advice will be appreciated.

I was in the same position when i had my surgery, lapband. I lived in a really small town where everybody tells everybody and knows each other. So I just told them I had to have surgery, then I ended up saying stomach surgery, nobody really asked questions, because I knew if I told one teacher everybody or atleast alot of people would find out. It worked out because everybody was amazed at my weight it was sudden thats not how lapband works. So yea I told a lie but it was my choice and for the best of my interest I think. But teachers would support you in that decision as far as surgery but in my town the teens could go both ways so I just didnt say anything about it.