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Topic: RE: I've failed my child
Hi Dawn,
I also feel I failed my kids as well. It is so frustrating to see them following our footsteps. I don't want them to be obese like myself. My son is 14 he is very short for his age he was 140 lbs and my daughter she is 11 she is almost as tall as her brother she weighs 130 lbs. I took them to this clinic at children's hospital of Milwaukee, WI. It was called the NEW kids program. It stood for Nutrition, Exercise and Weight management. They were upset that my kids would kept gaining weight in there program. And after a year they boot us out of the program because we had no progress with the weight. There goal is to have the kids not necessary lose weight but more maintain there weight. Some days I would leave there crying as the psychologist there was so blunt with me. And he put the blame on me. It is so hard to control what your kids eat or not eat. I can keep all the junk food out of the house which I do. They will sneak even the healthy food and just indulge. My son he only eats few types of foods. And will not eat and fruit and vegetables at all. My daughter she will eat some fruits and vegetables. She is always hungry. Both of my kids are on meds for bipolar disorder which contribute to there appetite and weight gain. Also my son has hypothyroid from the lithium he does take and takes meds to control his thyroid. He takes seroquel as well which really boost the appetite. My daughter we took off it and still have not seen her weight come down and it has been over 6 months now. I do not have soda in the house anymore and also only have skim milk in the house and send that with them with there lunch I do pack for them. My son is in after school tae kwon do and his sister just joined. He has already got his green belt. He also likes to play sports and plays basketball when the weather is nice. It is hard to keep them active in the winter time but they are more active outside once the warm spring weather is here but they still don't lose weight. And it frustrates me. My son in the last month put on 5 lbs that is alot of weight in one time. They both carry there weight alot in there bellies. And it is so hard to find clothes for them. They are in xtra large in adult clothes already. And they are not kid friendly. They want to have clothes in the kids department but can't because of there weight and size. I feel like a bad mother at times because I can't help them lose the weight I hope my wls surgery will show them how it is important to take care of there weight now so they don't need the wls later in life. I don't want them to go thru what I have since my teen years and now I am mom of 2, married for 22 yrs and 44 yrs old. And I am morbid obese. They are consider to be obese for the size and weight.
I also feel I failed my kids as well. It is so frustrating to see them following our footsteps. I don't want them to be obese like myself. My son is 14 he is very short for his age he was 140 lbs and my daughter she is 11 she is almost as tall as her brother she weighs 130 lbs. I took them to this clinic at children's hospital of Milwaukee, WI. It was called the NEW kids program. It stood for Nutrition, Exercise and Weight management. They were upset that my kids would kept gaining weight in there program. And after a year they boot us out of the program because we had no progress with the weight. There goal is to have the kids not necessary lose weight but more maintain there weight. Some days I would leave there crying as the psychologist there was so blunt with me. And he put the blame on me. It is so hard to control what your kids eat or not eat. I can keep all the junk food out of the house which I do. They will sneak even the healthy food and just indulge. My son he only eats few types of foods. And will not eat and fruit and vegetables at all. My daughter she will eat some fruits and vegetables. She is always hungry. Both of my kids are on meds for bipolar disorder which contribute to there appetite and weight gain. Also my son has hypothyroid from the lithium he does take and takes meds to control his thyroid. He takes seroquel as well which really boost the appetite. My daughter we took off it and still have not seen her weight come down and it has been over 6 months now. I do not have soda in the house anymore and also only have skim milk in the house and send that with them with there lunch I do pack for them. My son is in after school tae kwon do and his sister just joined. He has already got his green belt. He also likes to play sports and plays basketball when the weather is nice. It is hard to keep them active in the winter time but they are more active outside once the warm spring weather is here but they still don't lose weight. And it frustrates me. My son in the last month put on 5 lbs that is alot of weight in one time. They both carry there weight alot in there bellies. And it is so hard to find clothes for them. They are in xtra large in adult clothes already. And they are not kid friendly. They want to have clothes in the kids department but can't because of there weight and size. I feel like a bad mother at times because I can't help them lose the weight I hope my wls surgery will show them how it is important to take care of there weight now so they don't need the wls later in life. I don't want them to go thru what I have since my teen years and now I am mom of 2, married for 22 yrs and 44 yrs old. And I am morbid obese. They are consider to be obese for the size and weight.
Robin from Milwaukee, Wisconsin
Distal gastric bypass 7/28/09
6 month supervised diet done lost over 50 lbs pre-surgery
My facebook page is: www.facebook.com/robinfrommilwaukee (just put that you are from OH in message to add you to my facebook)
August 2010 weight 138 lbs lost of 179.5 lbs but gain again since my gallbladder surgery Oct 2010 range recentlly my weight got up to 166 and I was in freak mode. I am now down to 152.6 hoping to get back to 135 and started generic wellbutrin
Distal gastric bypass 7/28/09
6 month supervised diet done lost over 50 lbs pre-surgery
My facebook page is: www.facebook.com/robinfrommilwaukee (just put that you are from OH in message to add you to my facebook)
August 2010 weight 138 lbs lost of 179.5 lbs but gain again since my gallbladder surgery Oct 2010 range recentlly my weight got up to 166 and I was in freak mode. I am now down to 152.6 hoping to get back to 135 and started generic wellbutrin
Topic: RE: I've failed my child
Hi Dawn,
If you have failed, then consider yourself in good company. Why? Because 1 in 5 kids are just like yours. So are the parents really to blame? If so, why would parents of this era rather than 30 years ago be any more likely to not take good care of their kids? I don't buy it. I think sure, maybe some parenting attitudes are different, and maybe somebody will point to change in the incidence of breastfeeding and such, but I don't think this or other parenting issues can account for what has been an enormous rise (3 fold!) in childhood obesity.
So, let's not blame you or the rest of the parents out there that are witnessing the same thing just yet. But even if the problem is not entirely in the home (and again, it isn't!), let's realize that what we have the most control over is in the home. So maybe the home life and nutritional aspect of the homelife and the activities that the family can do together can be the focus to turn around childhood weight problems. Your husband has a leg up b/c he will learn alot about good nutrition along the way. You too I suspect are getting a good foundation too with your journey. Key question becomes what part of the country are you in and what sorts of programs may be nearby for your daughter to learn principles of a healthy diet, activity, and living in a structured way. It doesn't necessarily have to be a "weight management" program, and it doesn't necessarily need to be an obesity "boot-camp," but depending on the severity of her weight problem and the effects the weight is having on her health, you might be looking for more of a clinical rather than just an educational/fun program.
Warmest regards,
If you have failed, then consider yourself in good company. Why? Because 1 in 5 kids are just like yours. So are the parents really to blame? If so, why would parents of this era rather than 30 years ago be any more likely to not take good care of their kids? I don't buy it. I think sure, maybe some parenting attitudes are different, and maybe somebody will point to change in the incidence of breastfeeding and such, but I don't think this or other parenting issues can account for what has been an enormous rise (3 fold!) in childhood obesity.
So, let's not blame you or the rest of the parents out there that are witnessing the same thing just yet. But even if the problem is not entirely in the home (and again, it isn't!), let's realize that what we have the most control over is in the home. So maybe the home life and nutritional aspect of the homelife and the activities that the family can do together can be the focus to turn around childhood weight problems. Your husband has a leg up b/c he will learn alot about good nutrition along the way. You too I suspect are getting a good foundation too with your journey. Key question becomes what part of the country are you in and what sorts of programs may be nearby for your daughter to learn principles of a healthy diet, activity, and living in a structured way. It doesn't necessarily have to be a "weight management" program, and it doesn't necessarily need to be an obesity "boot-camp," but depending on the severity of her weight problem and the effects the weight is having on her health, you might be looking for more of a clinical rather than just an educational/fun program.
Warmest regards,
Thomas Inge, MD, PhD, Professor of Surgery and Pediatrics
Director, Adolescent Metabolic and Bariatric Surgery (www.childrenscolorado.org/bariatric)
Principal Investigator, Teen-LABS (www.Teen-LABS.org)
Children's Hospital Colorado and University of Colorado, Denver
Executive Assistant:
Karen Warnock
Phone: (720) 777-3179
Topic: I've failed my child
My beautiful eleven year old daughter is very obese. She gets it the honest way from her father and I, who are of course obese as well. Hubby and I both were obese as children, but not to the degree of our daughter. Dad has had the lap band and I am currently in the WLS battle. We've been to nutritionist since she was five. The latest attempt was a hospital program child oriented involving diet exercise etc. We had the usual results temporary wt loss. Dgt is at the point she doesn't want to try. We went to Psych and the DR said to take a break from dieting to decrease stress on her....... let me tell you that was like dropping the green flag in nascar, she was off and eating, now shes gained even more. Dad cant deal constantly yelling at her about eating, shes crying. I try the more book smart psych way and shes just not buying it any more. She absolutely refuses to exercise. ( yes I'm aware I'm rambling) So shes depressed I'm depressed dads depressed. So what will it take, if anything can to re-motivate this family. P.S. so far the only abn blood work slightly elevated cholesterol all other test EKG etc normal, Praise God!) Peace to you all, Dawn
Topic: RE: SWLPT Support Group
Of course....I can't have somebody cut me open without knowing a little bit about them first right?
Superstar??? To say the least!
Superstar??? To say the least!
Topic: RE: SWLPT Support Group
Ok, now I know you are a superstar....doing your homework!
Thomas Inge, MD, PhD, Professor of Surgery and Pediatrics
Director, Adolescent Metabolic and Bariatric Surgery (www.childrenscolorado.org/bariatric)
Principal Investigator, Teen-LABS (www.Teen-LABS.org)
Children's Hospital Colorado and University of Colorado, Denver
Executive Assistant:
Karen Warnock
Phone: (720) 777-3179
Topic: RE: SWLPT Support Group
I actually thought that the Information was good, so at this time no I don't have any other suggestions but as soon as I do I'll let you know =)
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I found this forum just browsing google....I saw your picture and I was like Hey I know that guy! So I checked out the rest of the site.
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I found this forum just browsing google....I saw your picture and I was like Hey I know that guy! So I checked out the rest of the site.
Topic: RE: SWLPT Support Group
Hi RenB,
Just curious....how did you find this forum?
Do you have any suggestion for other useful info that we could put up here? We have not updated the content on the right side of your screen in awhile.
Many thx!@@@@@
Just curious....how did you find this forum?
Do you have any suggestion for other useful info that we could put up here? We have not updated the content on the right side of your screen in awhile.
Many thx!@@@@@
Thomas Inge, MD, PhD, Professor of Surgery and Pediatrics
Director, Adolescent Metabolic and Bariatric Surgery (www.childrenscolorado.org/bariatric)
Principal Investigator, Teen-LABS (www.Teen-LABS.org)
Children's Hospital Colorado and University of Colorado, Denver
Executive Assistant:
Karen Warnock
Phone: (720) 777-3179
Topic: RE: SWLPT Support Group
This one was the first one that I actually attended....It was great and very emotional (in the good way)
--Cant wait till next months--
--Cant wait till next months--
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