OT REPOST: Annoying, RUDE girls!!**long rant!**

I just typed this out in another forum I tend to spend more time in, but I'm curious if anyone here has encountered anything like this! if ya make it through, thanks! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Ok, so I'm not normally a person that cares about what other people think of me, but lately certain people have been getting on my nerves. I don't know if any of you have ever experienced this, but as a pre-op, I do have to shop at stores for plus-sized women. Now there are lots of girls my age I encounter in these places, and a norm I've noticed for the past little while is that most stare me down, almost as though they're better than me once they realize they're a smaller size. At first, I thought it was just me, heck I know sometimes I'll look at someone and wonder if I'm bigger or smaller than her, but I make it a point not to make it obvious or act smug about it, heck I hardly care!! TODAY, this girl at the till, some flashy money-flaunting girl strutting around with her louis vuitton bag, chanel sunglasses, and a mile-high pile of clothing had the audacity to stare me down like i was a disgusting pig, look at my 2 shirts and bathing suit to be purchased, and even TOUCHED one to look at the size! she must've seen that I was a larger size because she flipped around an item in her pile so i could see the size, snickered and turned away! If I hadn't been standing there with my mom I would've said something out of character for even me, but I didn't want to get my mom involved or make a scene at this store cuz I'm a regular there and know most of the girls that work there. I feel like I should've, but I really do hate letting things like this bother me in front of my family..their way of comforting me isn't so gentle. You know, I've learnt to cope with people in normal stores looking at me a certain way, walking around in public knowing that people are pointing behind my back or when the start to whisper it's about me..heck some even think they're great enough to say something out loud to me. I deal with that just fine, but this? Come on, she's shopping where I shop, why's she better than me? I had nothing against her or anyone else I've noticed this from, nor any of that inner competition/disgust some girls my age and size obviously seem to have against other big girls. I just don't get it, why do ppl have to think they're better than others when they're practically the same? Of all the things to get me worked up over, it was this! and i've never been one to let strangers ruin my day or get me in a twist like this. Ahhhh maybe the heat is getting to my head, I've also been cranky and anxious lately because I have to book my next appointments with pcp, specialist, and surgeon within the next month. Been exercising up a storm to produce the log my surgeon wants as proof that I'm willing to work for this surgery. AHHHHHHH! sorry for the long post guys, if you got this far, thanks in advance felt good to let it allllllll out! Love to all~~~ Aleya

Wow. Like you, I've come to terms with the fact that in a "normal" store, if people start whispering or whatever, I feel like it's me, even if I don't know for sure. If that happened to me, mom or not, I probably would have said something. Of course, in my case, that's if my mom didn't beat me to it, but that's besides the point. It all boils down to people being stupid. I never looked at people the way she did, but I know for a lot of years I was in denial about my size. I shopped in the big stores or whatever but for some reason I always though "I'm not THAT big". Maybe she thinks like that and feels the need to prove it to herself by degrading others? I don't have a good answer, but lots of (((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))) Sarah

Thank you for replying hun =) I'm feeling better now, I was just a bit cranky before because it was all so fresh and I was fuming!...it's hard understanding the mentality of some people every now and then...I think i'll just take this as an example of the type of person i NEVER want to be once I do lose some weight =) I do think many girls do feel like they need to degrade others in order to feel better about themselves, and this doesn't apply to big girls like me or beautiful, losing women like yourself Take care babe, thank you for the support!

i dont usually get looks like that. the people that i know and meet dont really stare or wonder what size i am. sometimes i wonder if someone wears a size bigger then me but usually i just do my thing. but i completely get the feeling.

heh well you're lucky huN!

hi hunny i know how ya feel i rather shopp in normal stores than plus size for this very reason. i mean i haven't even shopped in forever really due to it a friend of mine gets tons of plus size clothes and she gives me some but as of lately i am trying to say you know what i just don't care but these idiots think but it is so hard they haven't been where we are and just don't know what it is like !! i chalk it up to pure ignorance!!!! love ya mandy ps i am new to this website so if ya'll have any advice i would appreciate it

yeah i would shop in normal stores if i could...the few times i have gone into them before even touchin an item i'm given a dirty look by the stick-skinny salesgirls... the best time was when i went to buy a poncho i loved...this twig told me i might not be able to find anything in the store ot my liking *as kindly in the RUDEST WAY POSSIBLE!* i went in anyway, found one, it fit PERFECTLY, and she apologized to me and helped me pick out a better color and ran into the back to get me a brand new one all wrapped up welcome to OH hun, you'll love it here

ahh, that sucks! if i woulda been there i woulda gave you permission to knock her lights out!

coy boy, if you woulda been there, we woulda taken her down together and then hunted after some more of them b*tches!!!! show up already will ya? hehe

thank you so much i wanna get to know everyone i am so scared i feel all alone at my age doing this u know love mandy