please help!

hi, im 19 and im not real sure about all of this. i just wanna be happy with myself. and i am, i think, but im not heathy! i wanna be a heathy person, but im so afaid of being treated diferant if i lose wieght. i dont like attention. im just so afraid that people will like me better if i looked better. and that would make me so mad, i dont want to change who i am, just how i feel (energy wise). im i crazy? i mean is it normal to hate the idea of being noticed by people who never noticed me before? its like a nightmare. i wanna look and feel better for myself, but at the same time i wanna stay true to who i am. i dont really know what i want. does anyone here feel the same way, or have you at one point?

i understand where your coming from, but dont put off this surgery because of not wanting attention, i think that the people that never noticed you before will still not notice you, and if they do...forget them, their the vain ppl thet you dont need in life, specially after the surgery. and honestly i dont belive that anyones personality changes for the worst after the surgery, if your an out going person before the surgery, you will still be one after the surgery. the onlything that might happen is you will become a happier person :D atleast with my surgeon he has us go through a psych exam to make sure that we're ready for the surgery mentally as we are physically. and if your not he requires you to have a few visits and get mentally ready :D hopefully i answered your questions and GOOD LUCK!

your concerns are definately understandable.... but you really dont even know how good it feels when you see someone who made fun of you in the past or.. just didnt acknowledge your existance before. i see people now that i went to high school with.. who i absolutely hated because of the way they made me feel about myself.. and just their reaction alone makes everything worth it... not that i did it for them, but thats sort of an added bonus. after i first started losing a noticeable amount of weight, i did feel kind of uneasy around people.. because whether it was just in my mind or whatever i felt l**** i got more attention.. at first i didnt really know what to do with it. but it could also be because now i am A LOT more secure with myself and im more outgoing... for whatever reason, i do get more attention especially from guys.. but its easy to tell why someone is interested in you. the people who are important in your life right now..(before surgery) are the important ones... family and close friends .. its all unconditional... i kinda feel like ppl that i meet now... after the fact, im more ...cautious i guess is the word to use. WLS is the best thing i ever did tho... people are gonna be the way they are no matter what you look like or what you do...... do whatever makes you happy... i love that im no longer afraid to be ME.

You will feel different about yourself after surgery hands down. At first it will be a strange feeling being told oh you've lost so much weight blah blah blah. But you get use to it, and sometimes it gets annoying. Honestly, as messed up as it sounds, people will treat you differently, you will no longer be the person that is laughed at or invisible. Men will approach you and make comments. Girls that are your friends will be jelous or envious of the attention you will get for your weight loss. People have said the cruelist things to me, " You were so gross when you were that big I'm happy you lost weight". I have to remind those people that I might have been gross or whatever but i am still the same person no matter what size I am, so that must make me gross now too. But I now that I am "smaller" I am able to weed the fake people out alot easier. People that Im out with that have no clue that I use to be 250lbs, start making fun of an overweight person it clues me into how they really are. I would not change my wls experience for anything in the world. I have learned more in 7-8mths about myself and human nature then I ever had. Plus I feel the best and the healthest I have in years. I no longer worry about food instead it has changed to clothes.