11 Days Post Op and Scared

Hi Everyone, Sorry to be so depressing, but I need help with something. Please tell me it's not just me. These last few days have been very hard emotionally. I feel like Im on an emotional roller coaster. One minute Im happier than I've ever been before and the next I'm down in the dumps. Example: Today I went to my nail shop, got my nails done , got a pedicure, and got my eyebrows waxed with my best friend(havent done this since my surgery got postponed in july). I had a blast and felt like i was sittin on top of the world (esp. when my manucurist noticed I had lost weight as soon as i opened the door). Then i got home ate like2 inches of a sub from subway- I chewed very well since im not supposed to be having this yet. Then i got depressed and the tears came rolling. Im so scared that im gonna mess up and this surgery is not gonna help me. (My dad had RNY in March and his staples came loose.) Anyway Im not eating more than i should be just not the things i should be eating. Nothing has made me sick and that scares me. i thought that was how i was supposed to know when Im messing up. So anyway, my mom told me to quit worrying about it before i made myself sick. She was in the doctors office today(she is 9 days post op) and was talking to other post ops about how she couldnt believe wendys chili was on the pureed diet and they told her that they thought it was kind of an individual thing. anything you can tolerate you can have on it. I dont know how true that is, but i hope i havent messed anything up. So im just wondering if anyone else has been through this or has any suggestions. Thanks for listening, Lisa

Oh my gosh. EVERYONE is on the emotional rollercoaster for a couple months after surgery. All the post-ops told me "Get ready for the ride of your life!" So dont even worry about it!!! Its prefectly normal!!!! I mean, im pre-op, but i talk to ALOT ALOT ALOT of post-ops, and its SO normal. So you dont have to worry about it! But if your only 10 days post-op, i wouldnt be eating subway if i were you...lol!!! Its way too thick(even you chew it thuroughly even) for the newly formed stomach!!! Hmmm....did u have RNY? Let me read your profile. ~Amy

Thanks Amy, That helps! I know Im not supposed to be eating Subway. Thats part of why I was so upset, but I threw the rest of it way Its just hard to do what im supposed to. i didnt think i would have this much trouble. i did great on my pre op diet. guess ill just have to kick myself in the butt when i fall off the wagon or let yall do it! By the way, yes i did have RNY - lap. Thanks for the support, Lisa

hey lisa!!! how are you??? i just had a quick few questions for you!!! i'm haivng surgery...RNY lap....in january...i was just wondering how your surgery went. did you have any complications??? how was the pain afterward??? how long were you in the hospital??? that's all i can think of right now lol but if you ever want to talk feel free to email me or message me on yahoo messenger: brave_and_crazy530 or aim: missbrownie530 hope to hear from you soon ~jen

hey jen i can tell just from your post that your a great spirit. lol. you seem full of life and energy. Anyway to answer you ? I had no complications, the pain was not that bad. i was on a morphine drip till the morning before i went home and let me tell you that is some good stuff. I stayed asleep 90% of the time i was in the hospital. My doc sent me home with a pain pill - 30 of them actually and i only took like 6 on the 4th day after surgery I was fine w/o the pills. i was still a lil sore, but not in pain. i was only in the hospital for 2 days. i went in on monday and got out on wednesday. Today was the first day i've put "real" clothes on (not sweats) and my jeans were baggy already. It was great! I'm so excited for you. Don't let my post make you think twice. It's the best thing I've ever done for myself! I'm just going through food withdrawal if you know what I mean. For so long it has been my best friend and refuge from the world. It's hard to just drop it and never look back. But after the way it hurt i dont think I'll be making that mistake again. lol. I would love to chat with you any time my aim is [email protected]. i'm just a rookie, but I'll be glad to share everything I know -Lisa

wow a sub is way to early for 11 days post op.... I don't want to scare you but this is food that being at least 5 months post op should eat. With regards to the emotional rollarcoaster not to be the messanger of bad news it gets worse before it gets better especially when your physical changes but you feel the same. Since your dad is a post op you have a great base to ask and get advice from a post op that is a little further along than you.

Hey beth, Tell me about it! It hurt like sin! I know I have a lot to go through up ahead I just never realized it till now. Guess it just smacked me in the face. I remember my dad going through sort of a depression, but he never really talked about it. Anyway, at least I know it's not just me And believe me I'll take your advice and leave the subs alone. Just had to prove to myself I couldnt handle them i guess. Thanks, Lisa

Hi Lisa! There's actually a medical reason for the emotional extremes......when I was going through it hearing this made me feel better, a little more normal Estrogen is stored in our fat cells, so as you lose weight the Estrogen gets released into your system, ssoooooo you get sent on the emotional rollorcoaster ride of your life!! Especially since we lose weight so rapidly in the beginning, its an estrogen overload baby!! Hang in there Hun...it get's better. And as far as the sub, dont get down on yourself too bad, so you made a mistake, ok, its over, and time to move past it, dwelling wont change it. Dont feel bad about cravings, just think creatively....there's always a close substitute. maybe not at two weeks post op.....(try and stick to the pureed stuff, I lived on cottage cheese and pintos and cheese from taco bell during my pureed stage ), but for in the future hears some examples.... if your craving a sub, get it but just eat the insides....lots of protein in meat and cheese, either just throw away the bread, or ask them to make your "sandwich" in a bowl, when I crave spaghetti or lasagna I have ricotta cheese with spaghetti sauce and lots of spices and cheese on it....yummm or my favorite.....nachos, everything on it but the chips......yeah buddy ice cream = no sugar added frozen yogurt from TCBY chips / popcorn / crunchy fix = I eat pumpkin seeds....... not everyone agrees with my thinking on this, but the way I see it, when has depriving ourselves ever worked in the past?? I know it always ended badly for me..... Best of luck to you! You'll do great!! -Laura H. (430) 386/260/190

Laura~ just wanted to say YOU LOOK GREAT! Congrats on your weight loss. That is amazing. Thanks for the support and the good ideas. Now i think i might actually have a solution You have made me feel much better! -Lisa

thank you so much for the compliment!! Keep in touch, I'd love to follow your progress, your gonna do awesome!! -Laura H. (430) 386/260/190