Advice, please
Ok this is quite hard for me to write, but it will be quite a lot. Sorry about the lengthy post but I had to.
I'm an obese seventeen year old young-adult, eightteen in February and I would like some help. I have been struggling with obesity throughout most of my life, even as a young child I believe I was overweight, or at least fairly pudgy. I've been told time and time again that I do not eat a lot, as I usually eat less then a decent amount of children in my Highschool. I eat most of the basic food groups and I like vegetables, etc., unlike most kids my age. The only time I eat any junk food is when I return from school and have a bowl of chips or what ever I can find, but I've tried cutting this out of my diet last year, I kept it up for the whole year, but to no avail, although this school year I have started eating that bowl of chips, etc. again.
One of my problems is that I do not exercise, although before my family and I moved to this state I did have a fair amount of physical activity, I would go out for walks, etc. My parents and I moved to the state I'm currently in, which is Maine, about five or six years ago, telling me and my older brother(now not living with us) that it was for our best interest to get us out and about more and also for my father's job. I'm not truely sure if it was our best interest as they did little research into this state, such as the state's climate. Most of the year here it's cold, it's very hard to go outside and take a walk. Even one the few days that the area I'm in is warm the bugs here are so annoying that I can't go outside without being totally turned off.
I've been starting to ponder though, as to why I'm as obese as I am. I've eaten normally and possibly even more health then most kids, yet I'm still obese. About two years ago my mother was diagnosted with Hypothyroidism, and with a little research I've found out it runs on her side of the family, with one of her sisters with it, her mother, and even her grandmother. I have been thinking that I may have this as well. Once though, as I was talking to my doctor I decided to ask him if it was possible that I may have Hypothyroidism as well, he told me that it didn't occur in males often and just left the room without saying another word, returning later not mentioning anything about it. I've looked at the symptomes and I have almost all of them, so I believe that the doctor was a complete fool for not checking it out at all.
I am desperate need to lose my weight. I've been depressed for the longest time. I need to lose this weight not only for myself, but for someone else who I know. This person is my closest friend, but because of the depression I'm in, which has gotten worse since school started again, I've started to make my friend feel upset, and I truely never wanted that
to happen.
The worsening in my depression is, if you couldn't already tell, because many children tend to redicule me. These children that redicule me are my other friends, besides that one friend that I really care about. I know that someone once said to keep your friends closer and your enemies even closer, but it's gotten out of hand and I just want it all to stop. I do try to avoid these people a lot, but I've ended up backing myself up into a socialially isolated corner, and now I do not talk to anyone and I'm lucky if I say 20 words in one week, and this is both at school and at home. Also this close friend of mine does not go to this school, as I'm sure that if my friend did, well, they'd end up getting injured(not really, but my friend would make most of the insults cease to exist, at least while my friend is around).
Also a couple of side notes. both of my parents have started to work, my mother previously did not work. when I arrive home from school my mother leaves in about fifteen minutes. I have yet to go to a driving school or have any experience with driving so I can not go to a GYM. My parents say that they will let me go to a driving school and buy me a vehicle if I show ambition for it, but I have little to none of it, because of my current depression, which, again, has been going on for quite some time. Also my parents have no clue about my current depression and what's going on currently with me, and they make little attempt to do so.
Anyway, I could keep going on for awhile about my mental status, but I'm not here for that. I would like to know what you think. Should I get checked for Hypotheroidism? Do you think that it still might be food problems or something along those lines? Please, I would like any advice I could possible recieve.
~Thank you very much
I'm an obese seventeen year old young-adult, eightteen in February and I would like some help. I have been struggling with obesity throughout most of my life, even as a young child I believe I was overweight, or at least fairly pudgy. I've been told time and time again that I do not eat a lot, as I usually eat less then a decent amount of children in my Highschool. I eat most of the basic food groups and I like vegetables, etc., unlike most kids my age. The only time I eat any junk food is when I return from school and have a bowl of chips or what ever I can find, but I've tried cutting this out of my diet last year, I kept it up for the whole year, but to no avail, although this school year I have started eating that bowl of chips, etc. again.
One of my problems is that I do not exercise, although before my family and I moved to this state I did have a fair amount of physical activity, I would go out for walks, etc. My parents and I moved to the state I'm currently in, which is Maine, about five or six years ago, telling me and my older brother(now not living with us) that it was for our best interest to get us out and about more and also for my father's job. I'm not truely sure if it was our best interest as they did little research into this state, such as the state's climate. Most of the year here it's cold, it's very hard to go outside and take a walk. Even one the few days that the area I'm in is warm the bugs here are so annoying that I can't go outside without being totally turned off.
I've been starting to ponder though, as to why I'm as obese as I am. I've eaten normally and possibly even more health then most kids, yet I'm still obese. About two years ago my mother was diagnosted with Hypothyroidism, and with a little research I've found out it runs on her side of the family, with one of her sisters with it, her mother, and even her grandmother. I have been thinking that I may have this as well. Once though, as I was talking to my doctor I decided to ask him if it was possible that I may have Hypothyroidism as well, he told me that it didn't occur in males often and just left the room without saying another word, returning later not mentioning anything about it. I've looked at the symptomes and I have almost all of them, so I believe that the doctor was a complete fool for not checking it out at all.
I am desperate need to lose my weight. I've been depressed for the longest time. I need to lose this weight not only for myself, but for someone else who I know. This person is my closest friend, but because of the depression I'm in, which has gotten worse since school started again, I've started to make my friend feel upset, and I truely never wanted that
to happen.
The worsening in my depression is, if you couldn't already tell, because many children tend to redicule me. These children that redicule me are my other friends, besides that one friend that I really care about. I know that someone once said to keep your friends closer and your enemies even closer, but it's gotten out of hand and I just want it all to stop. I do try to avoid these people a lot, but I've ended up backing myself up into a socialially isolated corner, and now I do not talk to anyone and I'm lucky if I say 20 words in one week, and this is both at school and at home. Also this close friend of mine does not go to this school, as I'm sure that if my friend did, well, they'd end up getting injured(not really, but my friend would make most of the insults cease to exist, at least while my friend is around).
Also a couple of side notes. both of my parents have started to work, my mother previously did not work. when I arrive home from school my mother leaves in about fifteen minutes. I have yet to go to a driving school or have any experience with driving so I can not go to a GYM. My parents say that they will let me go to a driving school and buy me a vehicle if I show ambition for it, but I have little to none of it, because of my current depression, which, again, has been going on for quite some time. Also my parents have no clue about my current depression and what's going on currently with me, and they make little attempt to do so.
Anyway, I could keep going on for awhile about my mental status, but I'm not here for that. I would like to know what you think. Should I get checked for Hypotheroidism? Do you think that it still might be food problems or something along those lines? Please, I would like any advice I could possible recieve.
~Thank you very much
Bless your heart...you sound exactly like my 17 year old daughter. YES, PLEASE go to your doctor and have some blood drawn to get your thyroid levels checked. While you are there, also PLEASE talk to them about your depression. High school is so hard on everyone, mentally, but for overweight kids it is a nightmare. My daughter has her little group of friends but I know that her weight has kept her from getting involved in extra-curricular activities so I worry about her constantly. She doesn't really talk much to me about it, but I can read her very well.
We are having WLS in December, mostly because I'm concerned for our overall health and I know that shedding some pounds will help us physically. I think that if my daughter feels better physically then she will become a bit more outgoing, which will help her mentally as well.
I can tell you all the hooey that you've heard 1000 times over about how image doesn't matter and it's the person inside who counts, but let's face it, most high school kids just don't see it that way and they're still going to give you trouble. Asking for help is a great step, as there is no "quick fix" for you situation.
No one can make you happy but you, so do what you need to make yourself better. Go see a doctor about your thyroid, weight, and depression, then take it from there. Become an active member of this board, because the people here are genuinely nice and supportive and can provide you with a wealth of information.
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF!!!!!!!!!!!
We are having WLS in December, mostly because I'm concerned for our overall health and I know that shedding some pounds will help us physically. I think that if my daughter feels better physically then she will become a bit more outgoing, which will help her mentally as well.
I can tell you all the hooey that you've heard 1000 times over about how image doesn't matter and it's the person inside who counts, but let's face it, most high school kids just don't see it that way and they're still going to give you trouble. Asking for help is a great step, as there is no "quick fix" for you situation.
No one can make you happy but you, so do what you need to make yourself better. Go see a doctor about your thyroid, weight, and depression, then take it from there. Become an active member of this board, because the people here are genuinely nice and supportive and can provide you with a wealth of information.
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF!!!!!!!!!!!
Hi hon. My name's Ashlee. I'm eighteen, will be nineteen in January, and I had RNY Surgery in April of 2007, shortly after I turned seventeen. Your doctor WAS right when he said that Hypothyroidism occurs most often in females, however, he was very wrong to not even give it a second thought. Go see another doctor, if you can, and try to get your thyroid levels tested. If your thyroid IS the culprit, they can put you on medications to even out the hormones and that may acutally aide you in losing weight.
If it's not, then know you're not alone. As much as you may not think this has anything to do with it, your mental status plays a HUGE role in your weight and lifestyle. I had depression before my surgery, and I still do. I still have to swallow a pill every day so that I can get up and function. Kids were horrible to me, too. A lot of times, we put up walls without even knowing it. I know, for me, when I was severely overweight, I lashed out at anyone and everyone that tried to get close to me. The goal was to hurt THEM before they hurt ME. Now that I've lost 140 pounds, it's not really that way. But don't think that getting thin and trim is your complete answer. Kids will always find a reason to be cruel. People still make fun of me for various things. High school can be horrible.
But the good thing is that a positive attitude really works wonders for that. For me, I have people that I trust, and if they get angry with me for my attitude, I try to explain to them why I'm acting the way I am. If they really are your friends, they'll listen and at least TRY to understand. I live in Michigan... it's freezing cold here half of the time, and the other half of the time the mosquitoes are so terrible here that I used to despise venturing outside. I bought myself some Avon Bug Guard spray and dealt with it. I'd rather be healthy with mosquito bites than overweight and unhealthy with smooth skin!
When it's cold, like right now, I bundle myself up as best I can. Two pairs of socks, shoes or boots, a sweater, a coat, a scarf, a hat, and some gloves. Walk that way for awhile... by the time you're down to your goal weight, you can just wear a pair of swearts and some mittens and run to keep you warm! Besides, walking and running aren't the only forms of exercise. In the summer, biking is good. Bonus: if you go fast enough, those mosquitoes won't have TIME to bite you!
Anyway, my question to you would be have you thought about Weight Loss Surgery? I'm not trying to get you to have it, I'm just wondering if you're aiming to get it if it turns out there's nothing wrong with your Thyroid.
Oh, PS... talk to your doctor about meds for depression. Prozac worked best for me, but different strokes for different folks is really true with anti's. I've been on Cymbalta, Zoloft, Strattera, and a bunch of others before I finally found out that Prozac worked best for me. Also, talk to your parents. You may think they don't care, I know I thought that about mine, but they created you. They raised you... they love you. And they want to hear what you have to say. Trust me.
If you need anything else you can message me, okay? Take care of yourself, sweetie!
Ash
If it's not, then know you're not alone. As much as you may not think this has anything to do with it, your mental status plays a HUGE role in your weight and lifestyle. I had depression before my surgery, and I still do. I still have to swallow a pill every day so that I can get up and function. Kids were horrible to me, too. A lot of times, we put up walls without even knowing it. I know, for me, when I was severely overweight, I lashed out at anyone and everyone that tried to get close to me. The goal was to hurt THEM before they hurt ME. Now that I've lost 140 pounds, it's not really that way. But don't think that getting thin and trim is your complete answer. Kids will always find a reason to be cruel. People still make fun of me for various things. High school can be horrible.
But the good thing is that a positive attitude really works wonders for that. For me, I have people that I trust, and if they get angry with me for my attitude, I try to explain to them why I'm acting the way I am. If they really are your friends, they'll listen and at least TRY to understand. I live in Michigan... it's freezing cold here half of the time, and the other half of the time the mosquitoes are so terrible here that I used to despise venturing outside. I bought myself some Avon Bug Guard spray and dealt with it. I'd rather be healthy with mosquito bites than overweight and unhealthy with smooth skin!
When it's cold, like right now, I bundle myself up as best I can. Two pairs of socks, shoes or boots, a sweater, a coat, a scarf, a hat, and some gloves. Walk that way for awhile... by the time you're down to your goal weight, you can just wear a pair of swearts and some mittens and run to keep you warm! Besides, walking and running aren't the only forms of exercise. In the summer, biking is good. Bonus: if you go fast enough, those mosquitoes won't have TIME to bite you!
Anyway, my question to you would be have you thought about Weight Loss Surgery? I'm not trying to get you to have it, I'm just wondering if you're aiming to get it if it turns out there's nothing wrong with your Thyroid.
Oh, PS... talk to your doctor about meds for depression. Prozac worked best for me, but different strokes for different folks is really true with anti's. I've been on Cymbalta, Zoloft, Strattera, and a bunch of others before I finally found out that Prozac worked best for me. Also, talk to your parents. You may think they don't care, I know I thought that about mine, but they created you. They raised you... they love you. And they want to hear what you have to say. Trust me.
If you need anything else you can message me, okay? Take care of yourself, sweetie!
Ash
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