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Hi, i have not been on the board in a very very long time, but I had my surgery 2 years ago and thank goodness everything is still going great.  I have lost 90lbs and am very very happy, I have a 15 year old daughter who i see is heading down the same road as i was, she just eats to eat i try and explain to her not to do that but I know she feels that i may be putting her down and i am not, i just dont want her to go througth what i went through being overweight, what can i do to help her get into the right mind set? if that is the correct way to say it.  She is involved with softball but that is only once a week, what other suggestions would you all have about getting her out and about and moving :-)

thanks for any and al Ideas!

Yvette
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Hey Yvette,
All I can say is you can't make it seem like a diet. Maybe start slowly by adding in vegetables to every meal instead of potatoes, etc. Just an example. Another thing that is sure to work is taking all the junk food out of the house. If it's not there, she want eat it.
As for exercise, why not take a bike ride with her or swimming, among others. It's more fun when you can "work out" with the family.

Hope I helped,
Jay Harper

Thank you Jay,

I appreciate your input,  I will try the veggie thing but this girl really loves bread, potatos and all of that, (just like i did) I am going to see if I can get her to join the group here, maybe that will help her see that she is not the only one having issues with food.

yvette

She plays softball right? Is she a starter or benchwarmer? If she's a benchwarmer, getting her to exercise and try to improve her game should help. If she's a starter, try to get her to improve her game so that she may be able to get a college scholarship.

If she's competitive I think these things would work. Also, modeling healthy behavior goes a long way toward your children doing what you are doing. Behaviors are learned over years and it's not easy changing unhealthy behaviors for healthy ones. The trick is staying motivated and knowing what works for yourself.

Get her involved with grocery shopping and cooking. Only buy vegetables, lean meats, etc. that would make for a healthy dinner. Those are just a few things that I can think of off the top of my head.

Does any of this help or have you already tried them?

Yvette,
I seem to be in almost the same spot as you.  But it is my son. I had bypass 2.5 years ago this week,  He is 6 feet tall with a weight of 287.  If I even mention diet we get into a big arguement.  I try to talk to my wife but she/we still buy the quick fixes for meals  We are all busy aren't we?  Anyway, He is 17 and I am making an appointment with my surgeon for teh near future.  Just to see what is going on.

Good luck!

Thank you, I am going to need it, she seems to be in sort of denial, she is a player in softball and hopefully when fall ball is over and she start conditioning for her high school team she will see the changes, they work you hard :), and she will continue to work hard, I appreciate all of you guys input, it has help . 

Yvette