PLEASE HELP ME

Hi everyone,

 

 

 

My name is Jennifer I’m 19 years old.  I had gastric bypass about 8 months ago when I was 18.   I feel…like im going crazy.....I'm just lost. I feel like I don’t know who I am. Lately I’ve been really depressed and stressed out.  I guess I just thought after my surgery everything would be different. I thought I would finally know who I was, but more then ever I don’t know who I am (and that scared the crap out of me)  I don’t know what to do. I mean shouldn’t I be happy?!?!?!  I lost 117.5 pounds so far, and I can NOT see a difference at all.  Is this normal? It scares me cuz if don’t think I look good now (weighing 198 lightest I’ve been since I was 12!) then how will I feel when I’m 150? 130 (my goal)

 

 

 

Anyone have any suggestions?  (post or email)

 

 

Thanks for your help

 

 

 

Jennifer

Hey Jennifer,
Well, I am Jennifer too. I am 18 and I had my surgery this past November. I think everyone goes through that. I know have. I go through my stages where I am sad for no reason and stressed over small stuff that doesn’t matter. You will find who you are; it’s just that our emotions are out of whack right now. You will get happy!! Losing 117.5lbs!! WOW!!! You are doing great. I have lost about 60lbs and I can’t really see it in me either, I can just tell in clothes. I know I am rambling, but I just wanted you to know that you are not alone. If you need to talk, I am here for you if ya need anything.
I hope you have a wonderful day!!
Jennifer

 

Hi Jennifer, Thank you so much for your kind words.  It's nice to knwo i'm not crazy, and there are other people that feel/felt this way (unless we're all crazy?!?) I am feeling much better today, sometimes it just builds up and i feel like screaming ya know?  Everyday is a new day, so i got to just keep trying and keep working and i know everything will be ok and it will get better.

Hello Jennifer, I'm a firm believer that losing so much weight after weight loss surgery is very psychological too. I was talking to my friend who underwent weight loss almost four and a half years ago, and she says it was an ongoing process to find a place in her life where she felt peaceful and comfortable with herself. After losing weight (or as you lose weight), you have to adapt to the new person you are becoming, and I definitely think it's a big change for many people. Many people I talk to recommend the support groups, or therapy so they can share their experiences with someone, discover new things about themselves as they transform. A big part of weight loss surgery is learning to recognize your new body as your own and something you can be more proud of. Some people benefit a lot from just talking to someone, so this would be my advice for you, since you seem unhappy and not as aware of the progress you've made. I hope this helps, I know it might not be the most original suggestion, but I still think it could make all the difference. I think it's a misconception many people have that once they lose weight, they're instantly be happy. Unfortunately, life tends to not be so simple. Nia

Thank you Nia, I'm glad I'm not the only one thats feels this way. I have called my Doctor and have a ppt with her soon, I know i need help and cant do it alone anymore.  I want to be happy, i want it enough to ask for help. Thanks again

Jennifer, I am 27 and I have lots of friends who are lost and confused and don't know who they are.  And they are in their 20s and don't have weight issues.  Don't put so much pressure on yourself.  You don't have to have it all figured out right away.  Give yourself time.  You will figure it all out.   Mandy

Jennifer,

I had my surgery over 5 years ago. I went through the same issues. 

The surgery changes your physical weight, but your mind is not fixed.  It's a long and tough road for the first year and a half. 

I was very lost.  Didn't know who I was, didn't know who my friends were anymore.  Realized some friends started to hate, others were friends just because they liked that guys would surround me...it was an ordeal.

I remember many times walking around, I'd see from the corner of my eye an asian girl staring at me and thinking "WTF is that asian girl staring at?!" 

It'd take me awhile to realize that asian girl was ME!  I was looking at myself in mirrors, but just DID NOT RECOGNIZE myself!

They told me I had body dismorphic disorder.  (When I looked in the mirror, I saw a 240+ LB girl)

Don't worry, things will get better.