Need help with food addiction behaviors of teenage son

Hi everyone! I found this forum looking for a support group for my step-son.  He is 14 and weighs 205 at 6 feet 1 inch.......he's come a long way from when he first became "mine."  When he was 10 yr., he weighed 210 lb and was only 4 ft. 11 in.   I worked hard with him on diet and excercise and we attended family therapy as well....his bio-Mom abandonded him in an active drug addiction and I can only imagine what he was exposed to before I met him.  My sister in-law had surgery 3 years ago with the band---I do not know the details--but it popped about a 18 months ago and because she never changed her behaviors or addressed the underlying issues of her eating, she has rapidly gained weight again.  She is scheduled to have the band replaced in a couple of months and has really pulled the wool over the doctor's and psychologist's eyes....it's an absolute travesty but no amount of love we can give will make a difference until she decides to change herself.  My step-son is aware of and has watched the whole situation but does not relate at all because he is not currently "overweight" in his mind.  He is still needs to lose/re-shape a tube of fat below his waist and around his back above the hip line but will only exercise if forced.  I don't even know if he is aware of the stretch marks down the length of his sides and on his back.  But this is all physical and can be dealt with eventually.  My concern is that he exhibits classic addict behaviors (I know this from both personal and professsional experience) and continues to sneak food and binge anytime the opportunity presents itself.  He gains rapidly (15 lb in a mo. on summer trip with Grandma) when not strictly monitored and I am exhausted with the micro-managing......he will leave the nest in 3 years and I can't make him take the right choices.  At this point I suppose I should be grateful he hasn't developed other addictions but they can and typically are substituted for one another.  We can't shelter him forever and the intense emotional pain he has inside is only going to be dealt with when he decides he's willing to discuss it.  The therapist basically said as much and we worry that once he is introduced to alcohol or other drugs,  he will be quickly enveloped as the pain seemingly "just dissappears,"  expecially if he hasn't dealt with his eating by then.   I was looking for some kind of a 12 step OA program for teens but was told by our local group that there wasn't one but I could receive support to start one.  Unfortunately, I don't think my involvement would facilitate any kind of honest participation on his part as he is in compete denial due to simple teenage stages and lack of emotional maturity.  Most forums I've found are geared toward the surgery which he doesn't need at this point but I fear if left to his own devices with no usable "life tools" he will certainly end up on that path.  I love him dearly  but feel his Dad and I are knocking our heads against a wall.  I'm sorry I seem to have written a novel here but I love him so much and want so much for him in life but I feel like I'm watching a train wreck in slow motion.  If anyone out there has suggestions or is in or has a child who is in a similar situation, please share.  Medical technology is a wonderful thing but I'm hoping that it will never become the preferred alternative if we can put some kind of workable prevention out there.  Well, Happy New Year and best wishes to everyone! This is my first post and if the moderator chooses not to send it through, please give me some alternative resources----Thank you!!!  

Dear Mom... You might take a look at www.radiantrecovery.com. It addresses addictive behaviors from a nutritional standpoint; the doctor who developed the program was the first in the country to receive a degree in addictive nutrition. She found her program was most helpful to sugar-addicts also. There is an area there for parents, and also kids who are interested. I have found it very helpful. Warmly, Nancy in CO