HELP!!!!!!!!!!!

Tonight I Went To A Meeting With My Mom To Help Me Understand The Surgry. It Did Not Help Much So If Anyone Can Help Me It Would Be Awsome. I Read That 1 In Every 100 People Die And It Kinda Scares Me! I Just Feel Alone Like Everyone Thinks I Should Know Exsackly Whats Happening And I Just Do Not!  But AnyWay Could Any One Tell Me What Happens In The Surgry Room? Could Any One Tell Me The After Affects Of The Surgry!!?!!? What Should I Be Worryed About? Whats Normal Whats Not? Some One Just Please Lynn

Ok, first of all, 1 in 100 is an exaggeration, especially if your mom is reasonably young and healthy.  It all depends how overweight she is to begin with and what other problems she has going against her.  As long as she's not old and sick, she will probably be just fine, and live a lot longer in the end. In the surgery room, she'll be put to sleep, the surgery will take a couple of hours, and then she will be taken out of the operating room and slowly woken up.  If she's feeling well enough, she'll get out of bed a few hours later and try to walk around a little bit.  Is her surgery going to be performed open (with a big cut) or laparascopic (with a few tiny incisions)? If it is laparascopic, she'll be up and moving a lot quicker and recover more quickly too.  That will also tell how long she'll be in the hospital. Over the next couple of days in the hospital she'll work on walking around more and she'll be on pain meds. When she comes home, she'll have medicine to take when she needs it too and she'll still be sore but trying to move around. Within a couple of weeks things should get very close to normal, except for her eating patterns. She'll have a series of diets after the surgery to slowly reintroduce her stomach to foods, and some might make her sick, as I'm sure you know. Over time, she'll figure out what she can and can't eat and how much she can eat. She'll need to make sure she stays hydrated too. Don't be worried about anything, and if you are, tell your mom about it. I'm sure she's just as worried about losing you as you are about losing her, and the chances are that that won't happen. What's not normal that could happen? There's always the possibility of developing an infection after the surgery. My mom did after she had it and had to go back to the hospital for two more days but then she was perfectly fine. If that happens, your mom will realize something doesn't feel right or that she is getting sick and will call the doctor to help get better. If there's anything else you want to know, just ask. I can't stress enough how important it is to talk about it with your mom and be supportive of her. I wish I knew more when my mom had hers done because I was scared and felt lonely about it too, and I ended up taking it out on her by thinking that it was stupid and she shouldn't do it and that she was taking the easy way out because I didn't understand. She's doing something courageous so that she can be here longer to take care of you and live her life to the fullest. Be there for her.