Hi, I'm new..

I have an aunt who is really far out [almost 2 years, i think] and my dad is about a year out [he'll be a year Sept 29] and they're both still doing good..my aunt tells me it is a struggle though, and it really does become all you. My dad is slowly eatting more..but he catches himself, which is good. I'm looking for a lifestyle change..i just need something to FORCE me into it.

Hey, I get what you mean about "Forcing you into it" I had gastric bypass 2 months ago, feel free to check out my profile (it's awesome. LOL) I haven't regretted it once.

WOW. I just reviewed [almost] your whole profile! ..its REALLY long.. lol but i did look at a lot of it.. and i just want to give you the biggest hug in the whole world and beat up every person that did those mean things to you.. Its so hard to believe how uncompassionate, inconsiderate, inhumane, and down right MEAN people can be! I know people talk about me..i dont doubt that in the slightest..but i am fortunate to rarely have things so mean said to my face.. but in the event that it does happen..i remind myself that they're only attacking what they see..and i thank God that the only thing they can say about me is that I'm fat.. because I know that, I'm facing that, and dealing with it. I am thankful that people have trouble attacking my character--who i truly am. They can't say to me that I'm a liar, a fake, or a backstabber.. and to me, life isn't about what you look like.. its about who you are and how you treat others. When you get to the gates of Heaven [sorry if i offend you, i dont know your beliefs] God isn't going to say "im sorry, you can't come in because you're too fat".. he's going to look at who you are. And I can tell--who you are isn't anything to be ashamed of. Forget anything that anyone has ever said to you.. because they're WRONG. I'm sorry this is so long.. your story has just really touched me, lol. Sincerely, Vanessa Ps: you're not just a pretty face. you're a beautiful person. I dont care what anyone says.

Thank you so much Vanessa, That was a beautiful message. I know my profile is long. LOL. Sometimes you just can't stop yourself once you FINALLY for once in your life really let it go. I finally know why I was made like this - it really helped me build character, see people for what and who they are and made me stronger. I feel sorry for people that prove their ignorance by embarassing others. I really do. I've just about forgiven everyone that has ever hurt me. I COMPLETELY get what you said about them only being able to attack you because you're fat - that's how I feel. Maybe that was my biggest worry about losing weight, the flab is my shield. When the weight is gone I will have no excuses and no reasons to put things off. LOL "You can't come to heaven because you're fat." LOL!!! As long as it's a gate and not a turn style!!! Thanks for reading, I appreciate your response.