I am getting WLS - what can you tell me about being the spouse i should know?

I am hoping to have WLS surgery this summer.  I believe my husband has mixed feelings about it.  Let me tell you also first that our relationship is not the strongest right now anyway, but we are working on it (married 2 years, dated since 2001, both of us older - i'm 40+ he's 50+).  we've tried to talk about it but he's not clear on how he feels about me getting this surgery (or i guess possibly he doesn't want to talk about his feelings about it). 

Anyway i'm just wondering what you husbands of WLS wives would have liked from your spouse throughout the whole process.  I'm hoping for some possible insights since I think my hubbie is going to have trouble asking for what he needs.  sometimes i really don't understand him as a guy very well i think.

Don't ignore  him.During  the rapid weight loss period. You  may start to feel pretty good about yourself. Looking good and feeling sexy .More people will notice you guys. Remember that he may feel left behind. Remind him that you love him and so him. We guys don't talk that much.

TY Deman.  I love him a lot, that won't be hard to do.

Hope you are enjoying Gainesville!  I used to live there!

We also met in 2001 but have been married 4 yrs.My husband had WLS in Jan and I did go through some times where i was scared and insecure. He was losing weight and becoming more energetic and I wasn't. I was afraid he would get tired of me because I wouldn't be able to keep up with him. He is a very outgoing person and I'm more quiet so I became real nervous for awhile.It helped to talk to him about it. Like the previous poster mentioned... Men do not like to talk. So he may not come to you with any concerns.But my husband kept on reassuring me in little different ways as well as talking to me. So maybe give him more hugs or leave little notes for him.If he is scared about your health start letting hem know your blood pressure is lower or you're off another medicine you were on. That way he can also be apart of your success and not on the sidelines watching. Try to find out his concerns. I have read alot on the boards the spouses can get scared because things are changing and they do not know where they fit in to their WLS spouse's new life.I know I did.Don't worry if you love each other it will be worked out. .