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I posted this earlier and thought this forum might be helpful too. Post Date: 5/12/09 9:34 am
I am planning on having an RnY, probably late this summer. My biggest concern is if I get positive attention from men, how do I deal with it? I have been fat for so long that I have forgotten what it is like and I am afraid I might like it too much. I am married,20 yrs, and am really having to try hard to interpret my husband's love for me. I hope, hope, hope that with weight loss he will be more interested in me, but what if he isn't? This is not the only reason for the surgery, health and easier activity, fitting on a roller coaster and running with my kids and not embarrassing them and hubby and myself on the beach or pool are some more reasons. What if it is "just the way he is", which is what he says now to why he doesn't want to touch me. If other men are more interested in me when I am thin than he is, will I be faithful to my husband? I know you can't answer this for me, but I wonder if any of you have had similar worries.
I am planning on having an RnY, probably late this summer. My biggest concern is if I get positive attention from men, how do I deal with it? I have been fat for so long that I have forgotten what it is like and I am afraid I might like it too much. I am married,20 yrs, and am really having to try hard to interpret my husband's love for me. I hope, hope, hope that with weight loss he will be more interested in me, but what if he isn't? This is not the only reason for the surgery, health and easier activity, fitting on a roller coaster and running with my kids and not embarrassing them and hubby and myself on the beach or pool are some more reasons. What if it is "just the way he is", which is what he says now to why he doesn't want to touch me. If other men are more interested in me when I am thin than he is, will I be faithful to my husband? I know you can't answer this for me, but I wonder if any of you have had similar worries.
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