Sex Drive Decrease

My husband had WLS 18 months ago. He was 361 and now 191. He has lost a total of 170+ lbs and I have gained 40lbs (my heaviest weight 240). I'm glad that he lost the weight, however I do think he is too thin, but that's ok. Heathier is better. My concern is that his sex drive has decreased dramatically, and he looks at me with discuss. He wants me to have the WLS, but it's just not for me. He made a slip of the tongue to let me know that he thought that I was the best he could get at his weight. I was then 185lbs. and he was 285lbs. Is this normal? Any suggestion?

Wow, Christine....I have so many thoughts going through my mind about this. I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. Bluntly put, it sounds like your husband's weight loss has gone to his head. Most WLS patients do say that they experience emotional and mental turmoil during the course of the weight loss but I don't think this is a case of that. Your husband sounds like he's just gotten rather full of himself. At this point, your best bet would be to sit him down and tell him exactly what you think and feel. If you want someone to PM with on this, I'm here! Best of luck and please keep me posted.

Well, it is too months later and took your suggestion to speak with him about it and he just stated fussing and didn't want to discuss it anymore.  You know I'm crazy!

I did speak to a friend of mine who wife had WLS.  He said that he hates that his wife had the surgery because she has become more self-conscience about her body due to the excess skin.

I wonder has any other spouses experienced this problem.

I read on the main site a few days back that a lady didnt want to have sex with her DH because he is too fat. She felt awful but said she just doesnt find him sexually atrratcive anymore. The thread went on to uncover that because he wont take care of himself, she cant find him sexy (make since?).
My mom had WLS and told my dad that if he didnt, they were in for a world of hurt. I think like all things, we change as individulas and as couples that can be hard if its not in the same direction.
I weigh 275 and am having WLS in 6 months, i cant wait. My hubby is fit as a fiddle and super hot (i hate it when girl**** on him) and weight (mine) has been an issue throughout our relationship. I having been a thin person for years can understand because to be honest, fat doesnt look good and sex for all of us on some level (big or small) does invovle sight. Yes, love is bigger then that (opardon the pun) but its a factor and he may have to work through it.
If you are happy the way you are, you need to stand your ground with him and be confident and show and tell him how sexy you are. But when we dont believe it ourselves, others dont either. He may also be getting attention for sexy girls that he had never gotten before.
i jsut read a thread about a lady who cheated for that reason...
good luck!