Thanks and one more quesiton

Thanks everyone for your replys to my post. I am beginning to feel "normal" now. I guess it's just gonna take some time to get used to it. I'm glad that at least this is norm and not me over reacting to this machine. Now - for my real problem. PLEASE don't flame me here. I have a hurting heart over this as it is. My husband works third shift. He currently gets up at midnight and goes to work. He is EXTREMELY upset of my cpap machine. (jealous might be the more operative word here) Now I'm begging, don't flame me OK?! He has refused to help me when I can't get the thing on right. (I'm getting better at this on my own) He makes rude comments about it to me all the time. Stuff like, "you're hooked up to THAT again" (yes, he does put emphasis on THAT). Now he even pulls on the tubbing when I'm asleep, which of course losens it from my nose and throws me into a panic attack which takes me about 1/2 hour to recover and get back to sleep. I've been VERY hurt over this. And any attempt to discuss it has gone unanswered on his part. He has made the comment though that I've slept all this time with out it so why start with a machine now. He's also said "Someone really found a slight problem and is now making tons of money off of this whole sleep apnea thing." I've told him that I haven't sleep good for a couple of years. That this is probably why the entire time and I'm glad that a reason has been found. I hope to get rested and regain my lost energy!!! But he just says, "you didn't die before, there's no need for a machine now" OK - Now I $%^&* off!!!!!!!!!!! This is the man who is "supposed" to love me and want what's best for me. OMG**** brings me to tears just to think that he actually said that to me. So, I haven't worn the cpap in over a week now. He's gone back to the nice hubbie he was before - just like nothing happened. He's not made any comments to me and the cpap just sits on my nightstand. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!!!!!!!!!! I feel that this is a serious medical condition. If it weren't I'm sure my insurance wouldn't have covered the cost of it. I wanted to give it a chance, to get used to it, and to see if I could make it past noon without being so tired that i'm good for nothing. But I can't keep fighting him on this.... I really just don't have the strength or energy. ANY HELP OR ADVICE OR JUST WHATEVER IS GREATLY APPRECIATED.

I am sorry that you are having this problem with your husband. Does he not understand that when you have sleep apnea, your oxygen levels get really low and that people have died from this? Is the problem related to your sex life? I mean, you can take the thing off for that!! Sleep apnea is not a slight problem and no one--no man is worth risking your own life just because something is inconvenient for him or makes him uncomfortable. I can understand why you feel hurt, this could be a matter of life and death. If you are not going to wear it when he is home, at least wear it after he leaves for work at midnight. Wearing it some is better than not wearing it at all!! Hope I didn't offend you--just concerned!! I hope it all works out and thanks for your reply to my post!!

hey laurie i also have sleep apnea and had not had recouprative sleep since i became overweight, not to mention that i snore so loud that neither has anyone else... I stop breathing 34 times an hour when i sleep. sleep apnea is not only serious its deadly! those machines were developed to help keep us alive, and if your husband wants to keep you around awhile he should grow up and stop being so selfish. I hate my machine but am so afraid not to use it that i might not wake up in the morning. I have gotten up a couple of times to find that sometime in the middle of the night and took the mask off. I will be so glad to have surgery and hopefully be able to get rid of that thing, but for now it is my friend!

Well thats not good if I was you I would still have it on mine is set at 13 and I tell you I feel so much better now.. you have to have that on for you not him ... he will get over it and if now well let him be.. PUT THAT BACK ON TONIGHT!!!! sHELLY

I wonder why your hubby feels threatened by the machine? He is insecure on some level and might be afraid of something coming between you and he on one level or another. By keeping you tired - maybe he is keeping you to himself - you'll be too tired to be attractive to someone else. Assure him of your love and demonstrate your undying love by improving your health. Wear the cpap - practice makes perfect! I've found that lifting the mask and letting it settle on my face again is a good way to adjust it. I also like the "ramp" feature. If yours has one and you've not been trying it, I would recommend that. Good luck with the relationship. But, most of all, I wish you good health! Keep on breathing!

Whats the problem, he gets up to go to work and you put on the mask? or whats his problem, and if he cant handle the mach, hows is he to adj to the new you after you loose 50% of you wieght or more? Ann Landers used to say "Are u better off with or with out em." u need that machine.