The saddest part!

I just do not understand people who give their WORD and then back out of it. I can NOT tell you how many people I email each month and tell them that their pal has emailed me telling me they did not receive a gift. Then instead of getting a reply that would explain things...I am told by the "buyer" pal that they did not send a gift because they did not receive a gift. I on the other hand...Got one gift in Feb and then never again from my original pal. I heard one excuse after another and it never matter enough to me to stop sending who I was assigned to. I made a committment to my first pal and yes I was hurt that I wasn't receiving but I sure did not want to be responsible for making someone else hurt because of my thoughtlessness. So when I took over I emailed my pal who was SUPPOSED to buy for me and explained that obviously I new who she was and did she want to remain in the program and of course she said yes....Only to keep stringing me along until July when she decided to drop out...Again promising to send me a gift for each month she neglected to do so...NEVER HAPPENED!!!Well I assigned myself a new pal and her Name is Sally Jackson and I could not ask for a better pal. She follows through with her commitment and it is not about the gift but the friendship I am forming with her. I genuinely care for her. My point is....What kind of person are YOU AND ARE YOU PROUD OF YOURSELF? Can you actually say you kept up your end of the bargain? I enjoyed this program and the friends I made. WHo I send to and who I receive from as well as many others...The saddest part is I dread reading my emails. Not from the people who aren't getting gifts but from the ones who do not send them. I have heard every excuse under the sun and perhaps out of all of them maybe 2 or 3 may be ligitament. That is really the saddest part. We are all in this together Morbidly(Or previously obese) obese people trying to make friends and bring happiness to others... ~~Hugs and well wishes~~ Chris

I agree with you.I have a great sp and I love sending to my sp.Its not about the gift its like you said the friendship. They new what they were getting into when they signed up.It is sad to read the post from ones who dont get a gift. Its not right to do that.I'm glad you posted this...GBU KAY

i agree with you chris! i had a great secret pal and for some reason she decided to drop out which was totally fine. she was always very sweet and thoughtful. i think you assigned me a new one, but i haven't heard from him/her yet. in the meantime i've been sending something to mine every month and i'm not going to stop just because i'm not getting anything in return. thanks so much for setting this up for all of us. you're doing a great job! have a good weekend! Lisa B

Hi Chris.. How do I sign up to be a secret pal? Can you give me more details? Thanks, Christina

Dear Chris I need to "THANK YOU" again for taking this project on and all you have done and are doing. I appreicate it. You are a GEM!! But frankly I cannot wait for my commiment to be over. While I have enjoyed sending my SP goodies. She was so good about posting to let me know she received them, etc..Now I donot hear from her to let me know she has received them. I recently posted to my buddy on the board but she hasn't replied. And forget about whoever the person is that supposed to be my buddy. She disppeared. I've been assigned to 2 different dead beats....I try not to let it get to me and I put it out of my mind. And I have actually stayed away from "OH" for months now. But its really brewing inside and I guess after reading your post today I had to just say it! Please don't be upset, I needed to get it off my chest. Sincerely, Priscilla

Chris, Two things... First, thank you so much for stepping up to the plate and coordinating this. YOU are doing a fabulous job and I appreciate all of the hard work and I know many others do too. Please know that we appreciate you lots! Second, I know you assigned me a new SP to send to me beginning in October. I haven't received anything from that SP. I hadn't heard from my original pal since March. Perhaps I will, perhaps I won't ever hear from my new one either. Who knows. It would be nice, but it's not what it's all about. I have sent my SP something every month. The person I send to changed a few months ago, but I haven't missed a month sending and I won't. I enjoy shopping and mailing something to someone that I beleive will maybe have a brighter day because of it. Big hugs and lots of thanks, Wanda

I do not understand, either--it is over two months now since I rec'd any gift. I certain do not want MY pal to feel left out as I do because someone else cannot keep up their end of our commitments. I have been told over and over that "it is on its way"--yeah right. We all have personal problems that may or may not keep us from our commitment here or there. My mother-in-law passed away earlier this month--I have been spending every day in her home taking care of things, but I still sent my SP gift out(it was I think 2 days past our 15th deadline), but also sent an explaination with that. I am pretty sure she got her package by the 22nd deadline, though. ~~Margo

Sorryto say, but count me out for next year! It's just not worth the effort snd the non thank yous. Grace

I too agree with you Chris...it has been a bit of a bummer. I've been in this since the beginning last January and have received something only twice...even my new one you just assigned me hasn't stepped up to the plate. However, the one I send to...I love and have not stopped sending to her because like you said...she is my committment. I'd probably sign up again...and am going to try not to worry about receiving, but because I'm making someone else happy and I wish those who don't want to fully participate just not sign up...you just make it hard for everyone else. Thank you for all your hard work it is appreciated.

Chris, I'm so sorry that people don't live up to their agreement! Even though I've only been here a short time, I have really enjoyed this so far! It is a lot of fun to think about what to get your pal and see things while in the store and think that would be a good gift for them, etc. I joined this as a way to support someone else and hope that someone would support me too...and so far, my pal has been great....so your hard work has been greatly appreciated by me! I hope this program continues.