Husband took me off his insurance!!!!!
I'm sorry, but in CA that is illegal. You would have to sign to be removed, divorce papers presented or a court order. I'd consult an attorney specializing in divorce for accurate information in your state. I'm not judging or suggesting an end game. I am stating that you are strong and valuable and capable of making your own decisions. His employer should be told he lied and they are at risk of legal action.
Thank you for the input. In the end, he didn't lie to them. It was open enrollment and he just removed me from his plan and stated that I have other insurance (which I do, but not at that time). I have been in touch with his HR and without bringing up reasons why he did it I did ask if there is a way to get back on the plan since my open enrollment has passed and I cannot get on mine and my hubs just jumped the gun. I am waiting on a call back. While this won't change what he did if I can get back on it will wipe some of my anxiety away for the time being. Then I can start figuring out what to do about the other crap.
Again, not to apply pressure, but to add information when you talk to his HR. I have to have the employee sign a document saying that you were insured elsewhere to remove you. I'd put emphasis on the point that you did not have insurance when you were removed and believe that to be outside the legal requirements. It may add to their incentive to put you back on the plan. Good luck.
I had come here looking for support because I wanted to have surgery and I got some really great advice from many. As I had said in a few of my posts my husband was totally against me having surgery and I found out a few days ago that he has taken me off his insurance plan. He did it on purpose and he made sure I knew it had been done by sending me a copy of the open enrollment that removed me. I do have access to insurance at my place of employment but his plan is better and of course covered gastric surgery
I am totally pissed off and I have tried to maintain my composure over the last few days but to be honest I am about to lose my **** I was doing so well changing all of my eating habits and focusing on more activity and now I just feel defeated. I called his HR to find out if he could put me back on his plan and was told that no because they already know I have a certificate of insurance through my plan and I would have to wait until Oct 2021 to get back on.
I feel like he totally sabotaged me and since I found out I have literally been eating my feelings. I needed a place to vent and I am thankful I have here to do it but I guess I won't be having surgery anytime soon.
I am so sorry this has happened to you! It was a really horrible and controlling thing for him to do. Did he not stop and think about your medication and other health care needs?
he only thought about himself and what he wanted.
I would do what white dove suggested, get myself back on his plan, get the surgery done without telling him and leave his ass.
Thank you. Yes he very controlling and this just took the cake. He didn't stop to think about anyone but himself and how he felt about me having surgery. While I did ask him how expected me to get meds after he canceled me on his plan he said he didn't think about. He figured I could get on my plan at work which is cheaper but that isn't the point. I will be doing what White Dove suggested so I can keep my mind focused on losing weight and hopefully I will hear back from his HR today.
Do not normalize abusive behavior from a partner. There is absolutely no scenario in which someone controlling your ability access healthcare and control over your body is acceptable. I don't know your situation and whether you can find a way out of this, but please name what he did as abusive.
On the plus side, hopefully your new insurance will cover it and you can do this without his "permission".
I had come here looking for support because I wanted to have surgery and I got some really great advice from many. As I had said in a few of my posts my husband was totally against me having surgery and I found out a few days ago that he has taken me off his insurance plan. He did it on purpose and he made sure I knew it had been done by sending me a copy of the open enrollment that removed me. I do have access to insurance at my place of employment but his plan is better and of course covered gastric surgery
I am totally pissed off and I have tried to maintain my composure over the last few days but to be honest I am about to lose my **** I was doing so well changing all of my eating habits and focusing on more activity and now I just feel defeated. I called his HR to find out if he could put me back on his plan and was told that no because they already know I have a certificate of insurance through my plan and I would have to wait until Oct 2021 to get back on.
I feel like he totally sabotaged me and since I found out I have literally been eating my feelings. I needed a place to vent and I am thankful I have here to do it but I guess I won't be having surgery anytime soon.
I'm going to be blunt and honest with you. Divorce that piece of **** He obviously does not what you to be healthy and if he went as far as to take you off his insurance without notifying you until after the fact. He would do anything he can to sabotage you if you do have WLS.
He is a toxic abusive person.
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Yes he is controlling and this has been an eye opener for me. While I have dealt with his controlling during our relationship (before and after marriage) this is just the icing. You are right he is sabotaging me and this would continue even after surgery as he mentioned to me one night that after I had surgery he was not going to not indulge in things he likes just because I can't and I told him that was fine. I would be ok without those things. I do believe he saw me really working towards this and not faltering and did what was within his means to stop my progress. I am waiting on his HR to call me back. Once I know more I will update again. Right now, I am just acting like the only goal is getting me back on the plan so I can get the meds I need and not the surgery. Also he is going on a business trip tomorrow so I will have a little breathing room while he is gone to think through things too.
