What's on your Thursday Menu?
Mornin' All!
Another beautiful day today, so I'll go out and ride my bike this morning. We're meeting my MIL at 11:00 for brunch/early lunch and then we'll go over to her apt to make sure everything is ready for her 1:00 p.m. class on Zoom. I hope to God this works because I am SO TIRED of all of her negativity. I know she's just depressed or stressed with this pandemic, and all of us are feeling more stressed and down than usual, but she's really starting to drive me insane. I think I mentioned earlier that she was late getting her residency documents in to the university, then she was late getting her "permission to enroll" for a class form in, yada yada yada, and she blamed the university - kept badmouthing them and their system. Now she hates their email system, their authentification system, and Canvas (the course software that a lot of profs use that have the syllabus, required readings, etc posted on it). And yesterday when I went over there to get her into the university's portal...and then to enroll in the class (she couldn't figure out how to do either), she started complaining about her cat. The cat had a few teeth extracted on Tuesday. So now MIL is complaining the cat has been either hiding in the closet or under the bed. She said she thinks the cat doesn't like her and hasn't bonded with her. A while ago she complained that the cat followed her around all the time. GOOD LORD! I'm sure that yesterday the cat was still in pain, or is reacting to the pain meds, or is still feeling the effects of the anesthesia - or all three - thus, she's hiding - as cats do when they're not feeling well. DH suggested that we tell her that our neighbor is in the market for a cat and we can check to see if she's willing to take Chloe, but I'm thinking we should just lay low. Hopefully this will pass. But I seriously don't know what to do with this woman. I think she needs professional help, but I'm not sure how to broach that. Well, we'll see what happens today. I do know this pandemic and the current political situation is really tough on a lot of us - I know my stress level runs high sometimes because of it - but I think her case is pretty extreme. Maybe having this class will give her something to occupy her mind and calm her down.
Endocrinologist telehealth meeting went well yesterday. My osteoporosis has gone from severe (2018) to beyond horrible (2019) back to severe (2020), but she thinks it's likely the 2019 machine was just....weird. So I've either improved or stabilized. So there's another Reclast infusion in my future - and then we'll reassess next year. She wants me to drop my calcium intake even more because my labs are showing I'm absorbing it really well - too well. I'm a little freaked out about doing that, but we're rechecking labs in a month to see where we're at calcium-wise, so I guess that's OK. I'm sure we'll go back up on the supplements if I'm too low.
OK - I could keep writing about other things, but this is already getting WAY too long..
QOTD: I love local summer peaches, but I eat raspberries on my yogurt almost every day, so I'll say those...
TSS: 5y3m today! Weight is down this morning, too. YIPPEE!
B: farro with dried apricots, yogurt, and artificial sweetener, coffee with half & half
MS: pumpkin protein shake
L: depends on the MIL meet-up. I'll take a protein bar with me just in case. If I'm back home at lunch time, then maybe pumpkin yogurt topped with TJ's High Fiber cereal. Or a piece of cheesecake-flavored yogurt pie with blueberry compote
AS: probably L&F yogurt with raspberries. And maybe a light English muffin with light cream cheese
D: turkey slices, elote-style corn, and maybe a little cole slaw with Asian-style peanut dressing
have a great day, everyone!
I feel so bad for Chloe. I am sure she is miserable and wants to be left alone. Dental work can be tough on cats as well as people. If I lived close, I think I would take her myself. But it is so sad that she would be leaving the person that she has been following around as well as the home that she has gotten used to.
You have the patience of Job to put up with your MIL. I would not be able to handle her nonsense and would tell her so. She needs to take care of her own life and to get professional help if she needs that. If I let myself, I would sink into depression over politics.
My grandfather told me when I was very little that the day after the election, you have to get up, go to work, and continue your own life. No matter who is president. I never cared who was in the office until the last election. I follow the news and get angry every day.
I don't want to wish my life away, but sometimes I wi**** was November 4 and the nightmare was over. But no guarantee that will really happen.
Real life begins where your comfort zone ends
I was thinking we could take Chloe, too - although we have five cats, two of whom would probably kill each other if they were ever out at the same time (we've had to "time share" the house for the last three years or so). So it definitely wouldn't be ideal - but I'd take her if we had no choice. But my neighbor might be fine, too. Her cat died about three weeks ago and she was saying she thought she might get another one later on this fall. She said hasn't been cat-less in over 30 years. So we have some options. But I think my MIL really does like having a cat - it's just her current state of mind. She'd been wanting to get a cat over a year, so I'd be livid if she gave her up for some ridiculous reason - and even more livid if she gave up Chloe and then ran out and got another cat (which I can totally see...). Hmmmpf. Anyway, I know it would probably help if we were around her more because I think she's feeling very isolated because of COVID and needs to be around people, but it's hard to be around people who are so negative all the time. I had to leave her apt yesterday because being around her was not good for my stress level - but on the other hand, I felt bad leaving her alone again. I hope she can get herself straightened out soon or seek professional help. This is tough....
I know what you mean about Nov 4. I don't know if I can put up with another four years of this. I have NEVER been so stressed out about a president in my life.
There is a demonstration this weekend in Youngstown with the theme "Get Trump and Pence Out Now". People who don't want to wait for the election.
I think you husband is actually making it too easy for his mother by suggesting that the neighbor take Chloe. I remember that your MIL was looking for a cat. A cat is a 18 year responsibility, not something to give away or throw away when you are not happy.
Your husband should probably have a talk with his mother and let her know that she needs professional help.
The reality is that you have your own lives to live and do not need to be around her more. She needs to learn to stand on her own two feet and take care of her own problems. A therapist can help her with that. I would let her son handle it on his own.
Real life begins where your comfort zone ends
may be the latter... I think she's just projecting her stress and overreacting to everything. She seemed calmer last night when we went over. She'd lost her keys a couple of days ago (one of the many things that was stressing her out), and DH and I went to the grocery store where she'd lost them and checked with the office - they had the keys. So MIL was really happy about that. Plus DH was able to show her how things with her online class worked. And Chloe the cat had come out of hiding sometime yesterday, too (probably feeling better after the tooth extraction and the immediate aftermath). So things seem better now. For now anyway. I actually think she'd be very reluctant if she was actually faced with giving up Chloe. She's wanted a cat for a long time...
Good Morning and Happy Friday-eve! JB- I hope you have a great day at the office. I have an appt with a podiatrist this afternoon to hopefully get one of my issues dealt with (my runners toenails- TMI). Aside from that I am helping Em get a birthday gift ready (she's doing something where she's giving a gift for all the 5 senses.... so one gift is some of her fav snacks another is a fuzzy blanket and so on. The "big" gift is for sound and it's a Ukulele.
Accountability: Good
QOTD: I LOVE all my fruit but I think bananas would be towards the top.
TSS: 6 years
B: SF latte, Fiber/protein oatmeal and turkey sausage links
L: Albacore lettuce wraps, SF. jello with cool-whip, and baby carrots
S: Turkey on one slice chompie bread and Carbmaster yogurt
D: Chicken enchilada with low carb tortilla, sliced fruit, and 2 squares dark chocolate
ES: Low carb pita with cream cheese and SF jam, Homemade Greek yogurt with SF syrup and cup fiber cereal
E: Rest days, did a little yesterday and got up this morning planning to do some but nope, I could tell things are still not "happy" so went back to bed.
V/W: On track
Totals: Cals: 1604 Protein:154 Carbs:151 Fat: 51
Have a great one!
RNY 8/11/14 with Dr. Kelvin Higa PS Lipectomy 4/12/17 with Dr. John Burnett HW291.4/CW165/GW150
That gift Idea sounds fun. I might use it for a friend gift next month. I also see you say Banana? My Surgeon told me to avoid Bananas due to the sugar and calories. They also told me to avoid drinking a half hour before eating and an hour after and I see other surgeons say 15min and 1/2hour after. Do you think my program is just more strict than it needs to be?
HW 299 SW 290 CW 139 GW 140 2/08/2019 OPERATION: Surgical Hernia with excision of total surface area of 55 x 29 cm of abdominal skin.
