What's on your Tuesday Menu, RNYers?

Good Tuesday morning.

Today I have an appointment with a new psychologist...which i'm shocked wasn't postponed at least. I am happy it's not as I really need to work on some things.

also, today would've been my grandpa's 100th birthday. I miss him and my grandma. He was a character to say the least. Picture is of both of them in the mid 1940's. Right before they had their first child in 1947.

qotd:definitely an introvert. I have severe social anxiety and general anxiety issues. I prefer small gatherings and even have trouble being social online. I have 200 something friends on FB but 98% of them are from chainmaille stuff and I've met in person maybe 15 of them other than the family members. I crave solitude but I'm usually lonely. It's a mixed bag of confusion and self loathing lol

food for today is going to be light and hopefully mostly bland stuff. Aiming for two shakes and then maybe some broth.

Your grandparents are lovely

Lovely pics--hope the appointment goes well!

hi all

we were also told yesterday but i'm in the office today. I have a presentation at 11 and it felt easier being here for it. my new house in TN is NOT setup for WFH, only have done on a few occasions where I've needed to. I think I will setup a space in the bedroom where there is some task lighting near the printer. its not a desk and I don't have one. DH was a messing with me yesterday- like of you found out hours ago and you are just now tellin me? I was saying I didn't see the point to rush to tell you when we have a tiny tiny house and no space for me to work and a dog that likes to bark at inappropriate times.

so- Julia- what I will tell you is to find a defined space, preferably NOT the couch where you can work undistracted. set yourself a cutoff time also for the begin and end of the day and either pack that area up or leave it in a room you aren't constantly going back to- cause it will cause you to check and reply at all hours. plan your food the same way you do now. so you aren't 'grazing' in the kitchen. I WFH the last 10 years before I took this job last year.

QOTD: way more of an introvert until I warm up- then I don't shut up

food plan today:

b: shake

coffee

water

coffee

l: chicken meatballs/cabbage

S: TBD

D: TBD (DH may have calzone)

S: TBD (the casein/whey blend cake last night made me have gas, so if I do the cake again I will leave out the casein

I made myself a little work space today! It''s not perfect because it's in the middle of the living room, and not private for phone calls and meetings, but its good for the work/email part. I will need to figure out the rest on days when Grim is home and doesn't want to hear all of my meetings.

currently in living room. suppose I will go into the bedroom for phone calls today - that room as a door. This old house we bought the doors opened into the little hall so john took them off and we have /are replacing with the sliding barn doors.

only 1 room is done and that is the bedroom.

Breakfast was a protein shake and lunch is a turkey sloppy joe with no bun. Not sure about supper yet thinking some left over steak and a salad.

No work from home option for me as I'm a lead for our hospitals home infusion pharmacy.

QOTD: It depends on who I'm around or the situation at times I can be both and introvert or extrovert.

Question based off of this though. They told me in our in person support group meeting at the facility we're having it at that a lot of personalities change after the surgery, with more people becoming more outgoing. They said they've seen this lead to issues in relationships especially with significant others. I'm not in a relationship in the moment, but thought I'd pose the question while thinking about.

I think it depends largely on how the relationship was BEFORE surgery. Some people's relationships get worse (and I know of at least one person IRL who got divorced a couple of years after surgery), and some people's stay the same or even get better. I think if the relationship was a bit rocky or difficult to begin with, it could potentially get worse. People get to the point where they don't want to put up with the crap any more and are more self-confident - so they are more comfortable leaving the relationship. As for me, I think my relationship got stronger. But it was strong to begin with. My husband never had a weight problem and was/is pretty active, and I couldn't keep up with him when I weighed almost 400 lbs. So he had to do a lot of stuff by himself or with other friends. Now I can keep up with him, so we do a lot more together, and I think if anything, it's strengthened our relationship.

That completely makes sense. Thinking on it now, I really know of one relationship with significant others have been negatively affected. Mom my had, and a few work colleagues, but they've all been married for many years. The only relationship I know of that was affected was someone I went to high school with, but they had more a number of issues after surgery and I think just compounded everything.

They also said relationships with friends may change and that you may lose some. I figure if they can't support us anyway, I don't need them any longer. Fortunately I have small tight circle of friends who are very supportive of my decision to do this.