What's on the Monday menu, RNY peeps?

How frustrating!!

Can he still apply to other college and make final decision later? Since you support him... you may ask him to do that for you, but if later on he still want to go to CC - then you are OK with that.

I would also let him know what would be the rules of the house he is going to be living in your house, as you support him. i.e. no late nights, still work on weekends to start making money for his personal spending, etc...

That's the plan. We talked to his college counselor. 3 colleges don't want anything else but his grades and his ACT scores, so practically we could apply for him and he doesn't have to commit till May 1st. If by then he changes his mind at least he has 3 colleges. The other ones all need essays and supplemental (he has worked on all of that) but the counselor doesn't think we should apply in his place. I don't wanna go around his back but I am so frustrated that I want him to have a back up plan in case he wakes up in2-3 months and realizes the CC route is not in his best interest. If he still wants to go then at least we tried.

I did discuss with him the house rules, practically nothing changes for curfew or grades, while he is home and going to CC. He won't be "his own man" just bcz he turns 18 but lives at home.

I keep looking at my happy dog and think I should have had more dogs and less kids!

The other ones all need essays and supplemental (he has worked on all of that) but the counselor doesn?t think we should apply in his place. I don?t wanna go around his back...

I understand that you pay his phone, his car insurance, etc... Can you ask him to pick 2 colleges with you (except the 3 you need to send his grades and ACT) and submit the paperwork. If he already did a lot,, ask him to do it for you. Understanding that if in May he still feels strongly about CC - you would not make him go to any other place. At least he can do that for you and your DH. Maybe?

Hi Sheila. That is a tough one.

From a pure bottom line perspective, it's actually a solid idea (save money, honors program, guaranteed admission to UC). But, I agree with you that the real question is why is he doing it? Is this really about helping the family financially?, or is it about wanting to keep hanging out with his high school friends and girlfriends? Or is it just not wanting to do applications because he is busy doing other things?

It seems like applying to the other schools is the right thing for him to do now. Even if going to a four year school isn't the right choice, keeping that option open until May definitely is. I think that it is perfectly reasonable for you to tell him that he needs to complete those applications.

Also, I agree with you that kids can't claim to be independent but still depend on their parents financially. I think we all (parents of teens) deal with that one to some extent.

Finances are the farthest thought from DS. We have always told the kids no matter which college you go to we'll pay. He is not doing this to save money...if I'm being honest I see it for two reasons : 1) staying with so called friends 2) he is overwhelmed. He had 3 AP classes last year and 2 this year. The counselor was not happy that he took only 2 AP classes this year = 5 AP classes + 2 courses at the CC. She kept saying colleges will look down on you knowing you had more AP options and you didn't take them. He is passive aggressive (typical boy?) and this is his way to fight back.

I am still fuming but trying to look at the bright side.

I bet some college tours might help.

We did the tours during spring break. Everything was going according to plans, he just changed his mind now that is application time.

Morning all! The website was down for me all morning! I tried on multiple browsers and computers, but nothing! I finally had to give up and go to work...

Hope you all had a great weekend! Mine was nice. I laid super low, got my hair done, went to a ball game, and mostly just relaxed.

Accountability: So glad to be back at work and in a routine for the next 5 days, because apparently I am not awesome when I have too much time on my hands. I have been off plan since Friday evening... :(

QOTD: Oooooh so many good ones to choose from. Oprah, Serena Williams, Elizabeth Warren, Meryl Streep, my cat (who clearly lives more luxuriously than any of the others I mentioned)... I could go on. But I found myself attracted to wanting to be really competent women who are at the top of their game.

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