Psychological problems - living after bypass
Counseling in the United States is more competent than in Brazil. The people on this forum have helped me a lot. Has anyone ever seen yourself comparing your body to the bodies of other fat people and felt that you have a wrong surgical procedure? It's a very big surgery, said the doctor who answered me on Saturday. I did something very wrong, I damaged my body. I have not been able to stabilize myself after 10 months.
Can someone help me?
Chris, I am very sorry you are still struggling to accept this decision of yours, but I am even more sorry that the counseling sessions you are receiving do not seem to be helping you very much at all. Have you looked into alternative psychiatric help? Perhaps you could benefit more from another counselor or approach.
Regardless, despite having reread all of your posts over the past couple of months about how you feel as though you have made a mistake, I still don't understand why. From what I understand, you have experienced no complications what-so-ever from your surgery. Would you feel as though someone who has had their gallbladder removed damaged their body? Someone who has had chemotherapy to fight cancer has done something wrong? Why do you feel as though your medical treatment was wrong? Especially because, again, you have had NO COMPLICATIONS from your surgery.
I see other overweight people around me and I remember what I felt like at that weight and I thank goodness that I had the surgery. I am so happy that I have chosen this treatment for my obesity. I, like you, have also had no complications from surgery. I am healthier, in less pain, my depression has greatly improved, and more. I would never go back, not even if you paid me.
27 years old - 5'5" tall - HW: 260 - SW: 255 - LW: 132.0 - Regain: 165.0
Pre Op - 5.0, M1 - 25.6, M2 - 15.6, M3 - 14.0, M4 - 13.4, M5 - 10.8, M6 - 13.8, M7 - 9.8, M8 - 7.8, M9 - 2.8, M10-2.4, M11-0, M12-7
Lower Body Lift with Dr. Carmina Cardenas - 5/3/19
Yes, I understand that you have had a hospitalization post operative to preform a cardiac ablation (https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/cardiac-ablation /about/pac-20384993) from what I understand, this is a surgical procedure to correct an abnormal heartbeat. Having an abnormal heartbeat is not a side effect of weight loss surgery. As a matter of fact, there is evidence that abnormal heartbeats are helped by WLS (https://www.webmd.com/diet/obesity/news/20140508/weight-loss -surgery-may-help-prevent-heart-rhythm-disorder). Perhaps there was miscommunication, but I was saying that from everything I have seen in your posts, unless I am missing something, you have had no complications AS A RESULT of WLS. Meaning you would have needed your cardiac ablation even if you had not had WLS.
I am not trying to be mean and I am sorry if I came across as such. I just do not understand why you feel as though the weight loss surgery damaged your body. Do you also feel as though your cardiac ablation damaged your body and was a mistake?
27 years old - 5'5" tall - HW: 260 - SW: 255 - LW: 132.0 - Regain: 165.0
Pre Op - 5.0, M1 - 25.6, M2 - 15.6, M3 - 14.0, M4 - 13.4, M5 - 10.8, M6 - 13.8, M7 - 9.8, M8 - 7.8, M9 - 2.8, M10-2.4, M11-0, M12-7
Lower Body Lift with Dr. Carmina Cardenas - 5/3/19
Exactly. I am 60 and two plus years out feom rny. I was unable to lose enough weight to become healthy any other way. ANY other way. I now have some very minor issues I will always deal with in exchange for being a relatively healthy weight. I have less pain, more mobility, etc. but I do have to be careful about what I eat. I cannot eat large quantities. I have some minor constipation issues. Did I rearrange my intestines? Yes, yes I did. I would have died otherwise.
Sounds like your heart trouble may be unrelated to WLS. My wife also has cardiac arrythmia. She had cold ablation recently to treat it. That condition sucks but I do not think it is a byproduct of WLS.
Good luck in your journey, I hope you can get answers for your heart trouble.
Before WLS I was so much into natural things, herbs, food, supplements.
But ...as I discovered, food was my pacifier, my fix to get energy, and to help with my anxiety. Post op - it was no longer available for me to self medicate myself with food.
I still was very much against medical treatment for my symptoms like anxiety, depression, etc. But I gave in. After 6 months I started taking medication for anxiety.theh really helped. But..as their effect was wearing thin, I started drinking more. Alcohol, mostly wine, helped with my stress, my digestion, and helped me to sleep at night.
But.. daily drinking, even if it was justified by pain and indigestion, wasmedi not really doing me good. And I was drinking more and more, more days, and more alcohol during the day I had any. But this was not really good for me. As I told my doc, "I like my liver and my sanity more".
So my doc switched me to another medication for stress and anxiety. That helped my anxiety, but not depression. I can see a few more changes in my prescription in the future.
I am not suggesting you need medication, but be open about that. Ask medical oersop for help.
Hala. RNY 5/14/2008; Happy At Goal =HAG
"I can eat or do anything I want to - as long as I am willing to deal with the consequences"
"Failure is not falling down, It is not getting up once you fell... So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again...."