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Honestly, I was a bit confused by your post but did not read fat shaming orb"speaking ill of the dead". Perhaps more like "making assumptions about the dead". Sounded more like you were sad about the idea that a SMO person was memorialized and defined by her love of food and baking. I'd say where you might have gone wrong is assuming that she wasn't okay with that. Maybe baking and making donuts for others brought her (and others) great joy. Just because it was triggering for you doesn't mean it would have been for her.

I was surprised by everyone's reaction. I got your original message.