A little bit scared

I weighed 211 pounds at 5'4' tall in January. I was 90 pounds overweight. I have always have been overweight. And dieting. I am 63 years old and fall over since I am so top heavy. Got diabetes 3 months ago, high blood pressure and high cholesterol. What made me realize I had to do this was my knees. The do not hurt. I have oesteoarthris and I need to get the weight off before my knees start to hurt.

My surgery date is next Wednesday. After a 6 month wait for all the tests and nutrition visits to be finished, blue cross took one day to ok my gastric bypass surgery last week. I felt a bit insulted sort of, 1 day? Then last friday I was told about loosing 10 pounds in 11 days. I calculated it out and that isn't even possible. But I have lost 7 in 5 days, so I guess it will be fine. Course they weigh me friday, which is only 6 days.

I have worked so long for this. I feel like the 20th is so far away as I am on the 900 diet. I am starting to hate vegetables. And thank goodness I find UnJury protein drinks not a *****alky.

But also the 20th is so close.

I am a bit scared.

thanks

Sounds like you have made all the right steps! Anxiety right before surgery is pretty common, I know I had it! Just control the things you can and try to relax, all worrying will do is make the time pass slower -- this time next week, you'll be at the beginning of your new life!

I was told that too, I lost more than half according to their scale and I was fine. Of course they really just want to make sure you are really trying.

Don't stress out over this, it will only make it harder. Just do your best and don't be scared, it will be fine. You are starting an amazing journey.

If you were not a little scared... you would not be normal. Its ok to be scared but not ok- to give in to it.

The last minute weight loss helps to shrink your liver...so is important.. just do your best... it will be ok.

cut every carb you can, the fat you get needs to be healty fats... coconut oil or olive oil... and strive for 100 grams of protein to give you the best chances for losing that weight required... don't stress over the gain/loss in a day.... try to increase your activity, with a 15 min walk first thing in morning and last thing at night... it helps to increase metabolism for several hours...according to what i was told/nutritionist with weight loss clinic...

You can do this and YOU are Worth it.

I was not a bit scared and I consider myself totally normal. Please don't put everyone in your narrow little world.

Hollykim, The reply was NOT to you.. I may could have expressed it clearer without hurting YOUR feelings. I have no narrow world. I have/had no mal-intent. The orig poster states "I am a little scared.".. I WAS acknowledging HER statement. I was not suggesting she or anyone was/is not normal, but that FEAR IS ONE normal response, to the many things we go thru a WLS patients/clients...and as we live our lives to the fullest.

WLS of every form means you place your health, life in the hands of a Dr. who will change it to help each us become the people we wish to appear outwardly. The inner person is more difficult to work on . It takes great courage to make those steps...to give control of your body to another person.

Other responses can be normal as well...euphoria..."as expressed by one - Oh Boy, I'm gonna have a new body..everything will be wonderful.." There are others too, Sadness at giving up certain things. The last stage is acceptance. We accept and work with the tool we are given to overcome a problem.

Many people are ashamed of being scared and do not acknowlwdge it. , It is OK to go thru e very stage of grief as we say good bye to our old self and embrace the new. .. Too many times the Obese have been abused and as a result have hidden their feelings, so others do not see their distress. Then one common response is to cover up the abuse and pain with turning to food. Accepting our selves as we are, is part of the process of learning and changing ourselves into what we need/desire to be.

this is a public forum so I can reply to anything that is posted , whether it is posted to me or not.

You said it is not normal to not be scared, and I wasn't scared so you are saying I am not normal.

That is wrong and unfair for you to state that anyone who is not scared isn't normal.

I do not think that she was saying that anyone who is not scared is not normal. It -IS- normal to be scared, just like it -IS- normal to have brown eyes. That in no way implies that those who are not scared are not normal. Just like I am not abnormal for having blue eyes. It is simply a state of being that can be very common before a life changing surgery.

I am curious what you hoped to get with your response though...Yes these forums are public, but your response reads as an overreaction at best and trolling at worst. What were your feelings before surgery? Do you feel that your emotions preop were more valid than fear? I am genuinely curious because I was a little scared yes, but I was more worried for my husband leading up to the procedure.

I do not think that she was saying that anyone who is not scared is not normal. It -IS- normal to be scared, just like it -IS- normal to have brown eyes. That in no way implies that those who are not scared are not normal. Just like I am not abnormal for having blue eyes. It is simply a state of being that can be very common before a life changing surgery.

I am curious what you hoped to get with your response though...Yes these forums are public, but your response reads as an overreaction at best and trolling at worst. What were your feelings before surgery? Do you feel that your emotions preop were more valid than fear? I am genuinely curious because I was a little scared yes, but I was more worried for my husband leading up to the procedure.

I didn?t hope to get any response. I hoped to educate the poster and nd ppl *****ad the post,not to make generalities like this.

Certainly,some ppl are scared and certainly some ppl are not, it doesn?t mean either group is ? not normal?; as the poster implied.

I don?t like for ppl to use terms like ?never? always? etc cause using those terms implies, explicitly that EVERYONE in the WORLD Whois alive falls into that category and unles the speaker/poster knows everyone in the world,which they certainly do not, then they are making a false statement.

i won?t let ppl make statements like this and include me in the everyone,because I AM someone,and By saying that,,they lump me into a category without even knowing what they are talking about.

My emotions before surgery were that I couldn?t wait to get on the table and I was not one bit scared.

i didn?t say the op feelings weren?t valid,but sweet potato certainly said any feelings other than fear were not ? normal? which implies that I am not normal because I wasn?t scared. That is her saying no other feeling is valid,imho.

i an certainly not a troll as I have been posting regularly on this board for nearly 10 years. I have seen any ppl come and go. I don't feel like I was over reacting at all.

may I respectfully ask, why you think my perfectly honest and respectfully worded post was trolling and over reacting and sweet potatoes ,was not in your opinion.

My surgeon told me that my fear was a good thing-- it meant that I fully understood what I was getting myself into, and that I knew that this was a Big Thing to be taken seriously.