Please help want bariatric surgery

You do know your profile has your weight loss progress visible?

Yeah you didn't lose 25 lbs the first month. You lost 24. I lost a little bit more but I guess only a surgeon could say what's normal.

OP seems determined to have surgery and I don't think she's been offended by anything I've offered. I'm honestly only trying to help for better or for worse. Im the first to admit my opinion and $3 will get you a slice of pizza. The post is 3 days old and suddenly in the last few hours everybody is so concerned about my advice Plenty of new folks come in here with serious problems and you can hear crickets. Go figure.

Thanks for pointing out my ticker to me. Yes, I'm aware of what it says. I'm also aware that I am 6'3", weighed 359 at surgery, am male, and still didn't lose 25-30 pounds in my first month. Do you honestly think that a woman 10 inches shorter and 165 pounds lighter than I was is going to lose 25-30 in Month 1? 12-14 is more like it, maybe. Then maybe 8, 6, 6, 6, 4, etc.

Congratulations on moving from obtuse to obdurate.

Please research before you make statements like that. You ignorance is showing.

Just stop.

Is there some alternate universe where folks don't lose almost a pound a day in the immediate time after RNY? That was my experience. I've been here a year and that seems common. Perhaps I just haven't paid close enough attention.

Ialso told OP to see what procedure was better for GERD. Parsonally im still on 20 mg of omeprazole so it's not like RNY is the golden cure for reflux.

Common, yes. Universal? Not at all. There are some people who actually gain weight in the hospital and take a week or two to lose those additional pounds.

Whoa, please stop with all this misinformation!

I was a revision from band to bypass. At the time that they scheduled me for the surgery I had a 33 BMI, so just right about where this poster is. I am a success story as a lightweight revision and literally none of the advice you have given this poor woman would have helped me.

I was sick as a dog from the acid and the inability to eat the "right" kinds of food for years. It was taking a major toll on my overall health. I literally could not swallow a piece of chicken without vomiting, sometimes that was true for plain water, too.

Of course, I did not lose 25-30 pounds in a month, I lost 5-6 a month because my lower BMI and revision status made me a slower loser. Also, I had no problem stoping the weight loss when I was ready--I added healthy calories back.

You know I love the restrictive aspect to our surgery but I don't feel the same about the malabsorption. Seems to me that once we reach goal it's more a hindrance than a helper. And it's "till death do we part"

Perhaps it was the encephalopathy post a bit earlier than this one (I'm sure those frighten us all) but the fact that the OP is only about 10 lbs away from not being obese and she only wants to lose 39 lbs gave me pause. Is a lifetime of dealing with malabsorption and all the surprises that may bring be worth it to lose 40 lbs? It may not be the best advice I've ever given but it is just advice. From a stranger. On the internet.

Anyway I've certainly gotten a lot of attention from this view and now I guess I sorta know what it's like to be bullied on the internet! Lol. I actually don't mind getting schooled by wiser folks although I think if your reply was first out of the gate instead of last I probably would have just kept my big mouth shut. I do hope OP stuck around to see your post.

Malabsorption after RNY is not usually permanent.

40 pounds is a lot of weight to be carrying around. I would definitely get RNY. I was actually 195 pounds having surgery. My body quit losing at 128. You will not lose too much. You will get rid of that extra weight and avoid GERD. Don't suffer any longer than you have to.

Please don't take personally some people's opinions that you have not enough weight to get RNY. That you need to go a diet, to lose the 40 lbs. It that was possible, lose and maintain- some of us would never had RNY.

But..as for GERD - I had it before my RNY- but I was able to easily control it by diet.

A few years post op RNY I developed severe GERD, that even very strong Rx PPI (strong and expensive) can't completely eliminate. I think I have some food allergies, and my body reacts to that with GERD. Not fun.

I can only imagine how bad my GERD could be if I did not have RNY.