Losing support

I understand how you feel my husband is still supportive, but as time rolls on, he's getting tired of my diet limitations. Keeps asking when I'm going to be able to "eat" things, not seeming to realize that if I have my way in some cases the answer is never.

I finally managed to find a local support group but they meet the one day of the week I already am out, but I'm hoping they continue in the summer when I'd be free.

I'm still not down a lot size wise just pounds so not really interested in buying new clothes, although I did wear an outfit today that last fit 12 years ago.

It's true though the people in your "family" support group do get a little tired about hearing about your issues so I find the "virtual" groups really helpful, you might also be able to find a local Facebook group for support.

Don't beat yourself up, you're doing really well, but sometimes it's hard to see the changes.

I'll try not to, my husband bought wine for me the other day?I don't think he gets it.

Had my parents for dinner on Saturday night, they wanted to know why I didn't have a wine glass at my place setting and why I was using a "desert" plate for dinner. When I reminded them they were like oh yes hadn't thought of that, my husband is good about alcohol because we only really drank when we entertained anyways. But he still misses desert even though he's losing weight too and liking it, compromised by buying him an ice cream (cherry chocolate chunk) that I don't like and won't be tempted by.

So far my husband hasn't "accidentally" bought me any donuts yet and has only bought the ones I don't like

That's good, that your husband doesn't get your favorite things. I think he knows but he thinks a little won't hurt.

Next time he brings up alcohol, maybe tell him about transfer addictions. When we lose our coping mechanism (food), there's a strong tendency to find a replacement. One of the reasons WLS patients are advised not to drink is because a good percentage end up with alcohol addictions.

Were not all perfect and not all of us will avoid having a drink for the rest of our lives, but I know it's a long way down the road when I'm successfully in maintenance and my head is "screwed on straight."

Hi - please don't beat yourself up - trust the hubs!! I have been away from this site for a few years, and also feel like I need to get more active to give myself a kick in the you know what. Hang in there - it's 1 day at a time, and many of us, me for sure, have a hard time with positive self talk.

Being positive is very difficult for me