REGRETING GASTRIC BYPASS

My roux-n-y was 12/13/17. I had to stay in the hospital for over a week due to complications. I required total of 17 units of blood. Eventually, they found a couple of ulcer which had been fixed. I had bad hospital stay experience which resulted in me having high anxiety and depression. I've lost weight, yes, but somehow I am not happy. Partly because of depression. Each time I have any kind of abdominal discomfort, I think the worse. I have this "gut feeling" in my stomach that something is wrong. I know it's my anxiety but I am having a hard time shaking it off. I am taking anti-anxiety/depression med. I am doing affirmation. Saying a lot of prayers. Many times, I find myself regretting that I had this procedure done. I ate chicken breast (4 cubes) and half of a banana the other night. My stomach felt like it was twisting so bad. I did not feel better until I "threw up". My stomach is always "bubbly". I feel full and somewhat nauseous most of the time. I just am not enjoying my tool. Anyone else felt the same? Please tell me it gets better. I'm hoping to "stretch" my pouch thinking I would feel better but my pouch won't let me. I'm crazy, right? Anyway, feedbacks?

Your pouch is still a baby so it's definitely going to be "temperamental"

remember you you got this operation in order to lose weight and get healthy. You have to focus on that. Think of all the issues you'll likely be avoiding in the future.

Good luck!

Thank you. Yes, I have to remind myself - I'm not diabetic anymore and I'm down to one bp med instead of 4. I used to think I was a walking time bomb because of my health problems. Still, I am the only one who's had this feeling of regret? I really hope that it'll pass.

I haven't had any regrets or been on the emotional rollercoaster (yet) but my bari RN did say that happens to a lot of us! You've been through the wringer with complications, plus as we lose weight our bodies are getting crazy hormone floods and for those of us that were emotional eaters, we've lost one of our crutches. I'm sorry you are having a hard time but hang in there, keep doing the right things and you'll get through it. This board is a great place to learn how other people have dealt with the issues, get support and feel like you are not alone!

I doubt you're the only one to feel this way. I recall my surgeon telling a group of folksls at a seminar we needed to attend " I only perform the surgery on your stomach. I won't be touching your brains" In other words it's up to us to tend to the demons in our minds.

Oersonally i think medication only only brings you so far. Counseling, meditation, exercise... those also can be a great help.

Remember many any of us ate to "feel better". Food was our drug. Now we're off the drugs. Gotta fill that hole with something.

Oh my gosh, you are so right! Maybe that's why. It's like there was an addiction to food and now that's not an option anymore! Thank you! I am getting counseling, doing affirmations, and tons of praying.

Some of what you are experiencing is completely normal and will diminish in time. The loud/gurgling pouch does become quieter eventually. It took a few years for me, but I rarely hear that sound anymore and it was an ongoing source of embarrassment for me at first (I teach).

Also, you are still very early out and some of us have a longer healing period than others. It was four months (almost to the day) before I could eat dense protein. But eventually, I could. I drank a lot of protein shakes and added unflavored protein powder to a lot of soft foods until that time.

You are feeling poorly because you are pushing your stomach before it is time and/or you are eating too much. Are you weighing your food? What does 4 cubes of chicken breast mean? If you are not weighing and measuring, you are probably pushing your pouch to its extreme and causing irritation/inflammation. You are not going to feel better by punishing yourself. You need to step back and let your body heal.

Finally, you won't stretch your pouch, you'll stretch your stoma. Once that happens this surgery will be for naught, as you won't feel any satiety when you eat, which is the whole point of the surgery. Knock it off and follow your surgeon's guidelines and weigh/measure your food.

Many people suffer from "buyer's remorse," because their coping mechanism (food) has been taken away from them. A therapist can help you with this.

That is so true. Thank you for the reminder. The chicken cubes were not bigger than a couple of rolls of dice. I am seeing a counselor but not often. I probably should. I'm glad and so thankful for your honest responses. Knowing your experiences and how long it took to feel better makes me feel better.

Sorry for all you have been through. Very tough with the major complication. You will get stronger each day. Keep up with the positive thoughts, affirmations and prayers. It will definitely get better and be so worth it, better days ahead. Hang in there.

i had a magic bullet blender and early out I put any meat like chicken thriough the blender. Maybe the chunks are too big?

I chewed them pretty good. I think it was pretty dry. Nevertheless, I'm sticking to moist soft foods for now. Thank you for the encouragement.