Family Non-support Rant

Ugg. My family is the worst. Just got back from Easter Dinner with the family. One of the first things my mom said to me is, "You're looking better (meaning thin), but I really wished you were going to lose that double chin." Yeah, um, so. She sucks. I am almost 6 months post-op and about 25 pounds from goal. I don't need that kind of comment. Will people ever stop talking about my body as if they had a right to judge me? Why does family have to be like this? Couldn't she just say nothing? /endrant

Never let that happen to you again. Everyone has something they don't like. Look her in the eye and say I always wondered if you would lose: the big nose, stuck out ears, big feet, crooked teeth, big butt, ugly shoes, anything that fits.

She will be hurt and devastated beyond belief and she will never do that to you again.

Nobody has to take that. Plan now to get her back.

I grew up in a family where people marry young (and in my mother's case -- marry often). When I was mid 20s (very old maid status) she kept asking me when I was going to settle down and get married, over and over again -- finally I said "Don't you think you've had enough marriages for both of us" - she was on hubby 5 at that point. Oddly, in the about 20 years since then, the question has never ever come up again. Sometimes even moms need to be reminded where the boundaries are.

Ugh family is right. I second White Doves response. I am so incredibly tired of my family telling me I look like a POW. I still weigh 152 pounds. Proud of it, but I certainly am not emaciated.

I have seen this sort of thing before and I do think that to them we do look like POWs at times. I just went back and looked at some of my earlier weight loss photos and I had no butt!!! I got way low before I bounced back to something more normal and manageable for me. And I also remember Lots of hanging skin .....I hope other folks don't have this....but I sure did. I lost over 100 in like six months....I did not appreciate the comments but if someone close to me did that I would probably say something I shouldn't!! Like you look too skinny!! I did!

Happy 6 months and counting. I think it was fellow OHer PeachPie that said mothers are allowed free passes. As young as I can remember, there were mother-lectures how important dieting and staying thin was. Talking back would never have been allowed; the way I kept sane was remembering the GOOD in Mom far outweighed the BAD. My daughters speak their mind at every turn so I think those stacks of free passes have been out of stock for quite some time.

I had easter dinner at Mom's today which I cooked she is eighty and not up to cooking a big meal for everyone anymore but she had grand and great grands staying so transporting everyone to my house would have been a nightmare, but she remembered to not put out a wine glass for me so no one would accidentally pour me a glass and I'd have to explain and she didn't buy me an easter bunny.?

Sometimes the little things are the best they can do and at least it shows they mean well!

Damn mom...Happy Easter and all that.

My mother used to mention my weight to me every time we saw each other. Even when I was a little girl, she would say "how much do you weigh?" I'd tell her and she would tell me that she was much lighter when she was my age. One day, as a 40 something year old adult, after she commented on my weight again, I told her how it hurt my feelings when she makes those kinds of comments. She stopped for a moment, then said "I'm sorry. I didn't realize that." And she has never made those kinds of comments again. I truly think that some times moms (or people in general, really) don't realize that weight is not like discussing the weather. There are emotions attached to it. If you haven't told her that you are hurt by her comments, then maybe you can say that? I hope so. I hope she would respond with care, too.