My husband isn't so sure and he's my most important support

My husband was also very reluctant, because he'd heard horror stories and was afraid I was going to die on the operating table.

What finally changed his mind was when I gave him my doctors' point of view. My medical team, made up of many well-trained people with a lot of experience, said this was my best chance to get healthy. He's a very science-minded guy, so getting evidence from the experts was what finally convinced him.

In order to gain the benefits of the surgery, you must understand and accept the risk of complications.

There may never be complications or they may occur years later. They may be minor or life changing. Death is the worst that can happen.

You and your husband need to learn as much as you can and make an informed decision.

I research everything, I like to know every detail, possibility, etc before I make a decision. That's why I'm so sure this is what's right for me ? My husband is coming to a support group meeting with me Tuesday ? Hopefully he will get a chance to ask all the questions he needs to to ease his mind.

I had a combination gastric surgery i*****Memphis with one of first surgeons to do and teach the surgery all over the world.. I made the decsion because my health was sliding downhill and there were no other options. Every other effort, within my area and means had been tried and failed. My blood sugars were unstable, more down than up,and meager diet permitted stabilization of weight and sugar but no loss. My Mom had had a similar surgery, 6 months earlier , by same Physician.

Having a Surgeon that you trust, and who has a good record is of the utmost importance.Having written instructions that are followed closely will help prevent complications afterward..but as others have posted that is no guarantee that things will not go wrong.

I lost and have maintained a loss of over 100 lbs for 22 years. My knees or hands no longer hurt me continually from the arthritis, I no longer need allergy pills for congested sinus and allergy issues, but use an OT****assionally with essential oils.

I lost insurance 2 months after surgery, so have never been able to have the reconstruction surgery to remove excess skin.

I can now tie my own shoes and do all kinds of activities i always loved to do but was unable to do..like gardening, yardwork, animal care. I regained the ability to play outside with family.

Yes, can and do occur... I have an iron absorbtion problem. taking a liver extract in a capsule helps me build iron.(Liver is the only food that contains all the body needs to utilize iron) Buffalo and calf liver capsules are available at vitamin stores. B- complex comes in sublingual and is absorbed better there.

Occassionally my blood sugar does a nosedive, because I have eaten something I should not have. I correct this with 4 oz of latose free milk, or a small cup of yugurt and a tablespoon of natural peanut butter.

I have had two intestinal twists, both were reversed without surgery, but decompression and low intermittent suction. I have learned to be very aware of my intestinal health,and gastric edema and use some enzymes to assit with digestion for certain groups of foods. Every couple of weeks i have a day i am not hungry, i don't sweat it, but drink cold liquids, mostly water, and eat only light and bland foods to give my stomach the rest it seems to need.

THese are MY problems. You may not have any of them! You may be able to eat any food you desire in limited portions. I still have a low tolerance for shrimp and seafood of all kinds, but can now eat enough to satifsfy. ( 4-6 Shrimp)

Even with my problems now, there is nothing that makes me second guess having the surgery I had. In the last 5 years I have been able to take care of my parents who needed complete care and my husband who has been ill. People don't take care of their loved ones from a nursing home wheelchair, and that is where I was headed until WLS turned my abilities around with a permanent solution to a permanent problem.

Good luck and God Bless you as you get on this road to recovery. Get your instructios follow them closely, keep copies so you can have them for reference.

Thank you so much! ? And God bless you too! ??

Take your husband to the doctors with you. I did that. I also did show him picture of people who had the surgery and showed them the transformation.

It was more about showing him what the life changes that will happen. I know it sounds vain about showing pictures of people before and after. For me the showing was looking how healthy and happy they are.

I will be honest it was not easy. I had to truly be my own cheerleader for this. I knew I had to do it for me. Not anyone else. Just me.

Learning to live life after surgery at first can be hard. There can be bumps in the road. But life is never always easy.

Fear is one thing that can really screw with people's heads. It can make them angry and all over the place in their minds.

Best wishes to you.

A lot of emotions come out with the surgery from spouses (mine was great, I'm lucky). Will he/she become more desirable? Will I be good enough? Since they want to improve themselves, where does that leave me?

Then there is the fear of surgery and risk.

Bottom line: Best thing I ever did but it has to include the support of your number one...you!