gaining at 6 motnhs

Last month you posted you only lost 2 pounds and you received great advice- stop the cheat meals, weigh and measure your meals and keep track of them. Since the NUT told you to stop with cheat meals this month again sounds like you really didn't hear what people had to say. Go back and read what everyone told you last month.

If you could answer a couple of questions for us maybe we can help you see where you can make changes and what those changes would be. I know you want to be healthy for your children and all of us here want you to be successful as well.

Can I ask how old you are and how tall you are? Sounds like ridiculous questions probably but they matter. Our metabolism changes a bit as we age, making it harder for us to lose. And your height would help us get a feel for what your calories and such maybe should be at six months out.

This last one is the biggest one though: we need to know what, exactly you've been eating each day. If you could give us a list of what you had to eat today and yesterday we will be able to come up with more suggestions.

It may sound like we are losing patience with you and to some extent we are. We are afraid for you. Having not only not lost, but to have an actual GAIN at six months out is a big red flag. People can and do fail this surgery. Surely you didn't put yourself through all of this to go back to your pre-op weight? Some of us see you getting good advice and then not using it, then coming back a few weeks later to ask the same things. Some of us see your gain and are alarmed. We wonder if you've tried what we suggested the last time you posted.

Everyone here wants you to get to goal. Except, apparently, you.

forgot to add: there is a (very) small chance that you may have something wrong medically/internally. Make sure your doc checks on that. It's highly unlikely but you just never know.

Seems like you may have not fully understood that the surgery is only a tool and we actually have to work to change the role food plays in our lives. The surgery doesn't just fix us it just helps us and especially it doesn't fix our heads. It really takes a lot of hard work and maybe that wasn't clear enough to you. You have the tool so now you have to decide if you want to use it or not. No one can decide that for you if your not ready.

It's sounds like you're very uneducated about the surgery you had. The fact that you can even stomach a "cheat meal" at 6 months is bad news....you need to listen to your Nutrironist or you will stretch out your stomach and end up more overweight than you were before surgery.

No one is "born to be fat", but if that is what you believe about yourself and you aren't willing to change any of your habits, then I don't see how you are going to get to close to your goal.

I don't have any problem with people coming here to ask a difficult question and struggle openly (Lord knows, I do every day!), but I am continually frustrated to see people come and get the best answers that the internet can offer, ignore them completely, and then come back a few weeks later wanting the same result.

Our answers aren't going to change, and neither are you NUT's.

• First, stop with the cheat meal.
• Second, weight and measure everything.
• Third, enter your stats into www.myfitnesspal.com every day and keep your calories under 700.
• Fourth, if you ask for advice, take it.

Sorry if this sounds harsh, but really--being sad & feeling sorry for yourself is not going to get you thin. 54 pounds is a great start and you can keep going, but you will have to put the effort in. The internet can't do that for you.

Go back and read the advices people gave you before.

You need to stop cheating yourself. That is what you are doing with cheat meals. And it show that it is not working. You need to really look at your eating habits, and change them. What you are doing now is not working. One meal, one day - it does not matter.

Unless you change what are you eating - doing now - you may remain at the week you are, or even gain back all the weight you lost.

Hi, I'm sorry you're having a rough time.

You weren't born to be fat. Maybe take some time each day, even if it's just a few minutes when you first wake up, close your eyes, and visualise yourself thinner and healthier. Imagine buying clothes in your goal size. See it until it's so real that you expect to see your vision in your mirror and are shocked when it's different. You need to believe that you CAN do this. From there you will come to believe that not only CAN you do this, you WILL do this.

It is all about choices that we make. If you eat home cooked protein, and cut out processed or fast foods, your weight will fall off. It's super easy to throw some skinless chicken, carrots, and celery in the oven. Lean steak is a great high protein choice that tastes delish and you won't feel like you're on a diet. Shrimp is high protein and low cal. You can even add a tsp of butter and some garlic and it tastes truly decadent. Plain Greek or Skyr yogurt is high protein, low carb, low cal, and tastes great with a quarter cup of berries.

There are loads of recipes online to help. Check out The World According to Eggface's blog; it's a wonderful source of info.

If you don't already, start weighing and measuring your food, and log it into an app. I use myfitnesspal, and really like it, but there are a lot more out there.

You can do this. I'm rooting for you.

You lost me at 'cheat meals'