Instant Regret

IMHO, it really takes a year until you really know if you made a mistake or not. At less than a month out, you are still feeling the effects of the anesthesia and recovering from major surgery. I cannot tell if you made a mistake or not, and neither can you at this point. Long term, there is little difference between sleeve vs RNY, so don't worry about that part of your decision to have WL surgery.

Hold off on your final assessment (you may be right, but you may revise your assessment over the next year.) So, follow the WLS instructions for a year and then decide. Right now, make a list of what it is like to be heavy, now and for the next 50 years. Your decision was not just about fitting into smaller clothes - think A1C, cholesterol, high blood pressure, and knee and back problems, etc)

From what you write, and for what it's worth, here is MHO:

1. Only 3-5% of people who have more than 50 pounds to lose take and keep it off without WLS.

2. Your yo-yo diet history is a BIG indicator that your are NOT one of the lucky ones.

3.Therefore, whether you like your options or not, they are limited:

1. yo yo for the rest of your life

2. Do nothing - really means gain 5 pounds a year until you decide to get back on the yo yo diet cycle, OR

3. Get WLS - the only medically proven method to lose weight and keep it off

So, from a health standpoint you prob made the right decision, even if you (perhaps temporarily) think you made it prematurely. You have year to do you best and see what the future holds.

Stay the course until then.

I just saw your other post and found this one through that. I had surgery 5/2. I immediately felt this huge pit in my stomach with an overwhelming feeling of dread. I wanted to turn back time so bad. The weeks after were a roller coaster. I felt like crap for a good solid week and then off and on until about 8 weeks post op. I'd suddenly get tired or nauseous and couldn't participate in things and felt like I was missing out on life. I've had a hard time figuring out what my pouch tolerates and have spent more time sick in the bathroom than I care to admit. I've also had to work hard to battle head hunger and also mourn the loss of the foods I used to love that I can't have anymore. It's a big emotional toll. On top of that I battle anxiety and depression and could feel myself slipping. Somewhere around 8 weeks things started improving and I also started noticing those non-scale victories everyone talks about. Slowly my mood has lifted and I am at a point now where I am very happy with my decision. It's definitely easier once you see the difference as well.

All that to say, I've been where you are. I'm 36 by the way and while I am not as young, I am not quite old either so I worried about making such a lifetime commitment. Only time will tell if it was the right decision but for now I take it day by day and work on my mental and physical well being. I'd recommend you do the same and try not to thing too much about the big picture and just focus on today.

Recovery sucks. Surgery sucks.

I know it's usually talked about in a positive light, but the reality is that I wasn't "happy" I had wls until I was a few months out. I hated recovery, but was excited about the weight loss.

Regret is normal. Feeling it doesn't make you weak, it is a normal reaction to a big life change.

I would say trust your pre op self. You probably didn't rush into having surgery. Like most of us you most likely had to research options, do some type of pre op testing, maybe a diet, etc. You had a lot of time to walk away, but at some point you said this was the right direction.

Right now the best (and only) thing you can do is to trust that you made the right decision and try to move forward.