The fat person inside me...

This is true for me. I know if I start to make fun of myself it can lead to a downward spiral.

I am not saying you would do this. This is more for someone who may be reading this may do this to themselves.

I now try to look at my before pictures and the now pictures trying to say something good about myself.

I have had people say I didn't think you were ever that big when they see a picture. They didn't see the person they saw my heart. Knowing they loved me for who I am.

When I had WLS I had to learn to like myself. That is one thing I am learning till this day.

Being kind to ourselves is something we have to learn.

I totally agree!

Seeing the words "fat, phat, etc" as part of a person's screen name is one of my heart breakers...unless it in the PAST tense....High functioning fat man already knows this, I shook my mommy finger, at him long ago-and now he's skinny already:) It just seems like a constant self "put down...and who needs that???

Just my opinion...Yea, I'm old...And I've never had a filter...Why start NOW?

Just because of the time of year, I've seen a lot of people that haven't seem me since I lost 100 lbs, and I've been touched by the ones who tell me I look great- and then add that they always thought I looked good and that's not what they mean. Sometimes people have been visibly torn between wanting to tell me how great it is I've lost weight but not wanting to say something that would mean I didn't look good before.

My motto has always been that in order for me to love the girl I am now (and the one I hope to be), I have to love the girl in the before pic- the one that was brave enough to go ahead and have her guts rearranged, who lost and gained so much weight over the year and who dealt with all the issues and emotional conflict that comes with all of that.