People Suck!

Thanks Grim. You always keep me on the straight and narrow!

Regain and not getting to goal has been a part of my life. I still have about 20 pounds to lose. It is coming off slowly. My tool still works. I just need to pull my head out of my ass at times.

People always say things about WLS. I think this is why when people post about that they are not eating right just out from surgery. People here will tell them in words that they really need to get a hold on things.They always feel like they are being judged. Or lash out and then deactivate. Honesty is one thing I am teaching myself.

This is why I don't share with people that I have had surgery. There will always be a negative Nelly telling about someone *****ally screwed up. Or blame the surgery for other medical reasons that would have happened regardless.

I am seeing people next weekend. They blame their best friends death on have RNY. Well we all knew she was an alcoholic. Before and after surgery. My biggest fear is I am going to blurt it out that she was a drunk who drank before work and passed out and wacked her head on the bathroom stall. I know this sounds harsh. I just get sick of trying to justify why I had surgery.

I try to shut conversations down. I usually change the topic to something about them.

What you said above does happen. People can really be mean. Major douche bags.

from many of your previous posts, you are actually on your way to regain. Adding more calories, eating a few "treats" here and there since you are below goal surely won't hurt, right, you have posted.

you are already on a slippery slope.

Personally I know several people who had surgery and gained most of their weight back because they reverted back to bad lifelong habits. In fact the people I know who have been successful are all on this site. They hold themselves accountable every day. I remember at your stage post op thinking I was cured and worried about losing too much weight. But now at nearly 5 years out,the praise for my loss has stopped,I've been following the rules for a long time anD frequently the temptation is there to skip the exercise (after all I'm tired and it's hot and muggy out)or to make bad choices and have some of the pasta I make for my family. I have to get up every morning,walk with my dog,and post my menu here to be accountable. I continue to weigh myself and weigh and track my food everyday and if I want to stay successful I will continue all these new habits. That chubby girl with the food demons who loves the carbs and sweets is still here--and daily it's my full time job to keep her in line and to make the changes I need to to keep the weight off.

I am sorry you are dealing with difficult people. I have been very private about my surgery. I don't feel that its anyones business. It always amazes me the crap that comes out of peoples mouths.

Today I'm exactly 9 months out and 2.5lbs from goal and I have the opposite issue from you. I'm scared to death of regain. I've spent my life gaining and losing over and over. What will make this different? This has been the easiest it's ever been to lose! Up until recently there's no hunger. I have limited space in my pouch and I get tons of compliments. What happens when it's no longer easy? How will I cope? What will I do when confronted with diet fatigue or when people stop making comments? at the end of the day this is the honeymoon period and just like any marriage this time will pass and it scares me.

So, I come here everyday regardless of how busy I am and even if I don't post I read. I see the struggle from all the vets who are successful and are here to help themselves by helping us. I've told very few people about my surgery. People may guess etc but I've not chosen not to talk about it with anyone except family and a couple of MO friends who have asked how I've done it and I can't lie to them.

I'm working daily on my resolve. I watch what normal people eat and I want to be like them but I'm slowly beginning to realize that I won't ever be. I'm in mourning about that. However, if I didn't come here I wouldn't even know half of what I've learned and I feel I've found a place that is gong to continue to help me navigate through this desease of ours and I can only hope when the hard work comes in a year or two or three or ten, I'll be able to manage through it.

We have the same issue! I'm scared to death of regain!!

Apart from the old habits creeping in and us eating more with less calories being malabsorbed, and the three year mark when our bodies have had time to adjust to our new plumbing you also have to take in to consideration especially with women the stage of menopause with the added weight gain despite our efforts to sticking to a regimented diet of so many calories etc. The men too go through their hormonal changes as they get older and will start to gain the pounds. just because we have had surgery doesn't mean we will never ever regain. This does not even take into consideration any mechanical breakdowns like staple line breaks, enlarged stomas etc.

Hey hey, yes there are a lot of negative Nancies out there. I think being aware daily of your food/activity decisions is important so you don't regain. My sister is 2 yrs post op and still keeping it off. I work with a lady who has had RNY done twice (which I didn't know was possible), and she is MO. She eats everything, and it's always take out food. I'm assuming she must have stretched out her pouch because she eats a lot in one sitting.

reading all of these responses on here makes me so grateful that my program at Toronto Western Hospital includes 5 years of follow-up appointments. Hopefully this will help me get past/through the difficulties that so many people seem to have year 3-4.

Here in Ontario, Canada, WLS is fully covered by the government under certain conditions, and luckily I was admitted to the program before they made a major change. I still get the 5 years of follow-up. Anyone who starts now gets only 1 year. By the responses on here it sounds like that may lead to less of a success rate.