Pretty mad and depressed
I was at the VFW Department of Michigan Convention this past weekend and I had a Past State Commander ask me if I had AIDS because of the weight loss. I so wanted to throat punch him then and there. I haven't told my wife what he said but the more I think about it the madder and more depressed I get. I had told everyone in attendance that I had bypass surgery and was down 100 pounds and the only reason that I did that was because I had heard a few rumors going around that I was sick and that is why I dropped the weight so fast.
What an incredibly rude and inappropriate question to ask anyone. This reflects poorly on him. Hold your head high and be proud of your accomplishment. You shouldn't have to share your personal medical issues with anyone just because they are ignorant enough to make comments like this one or spread rumours of what they think is going on.
on 6/6/17 8:06 am
I think you need to let this go. This person is clearly an ass. I mean to ask someone like this is horrible. It would be nobodies business.
You don't owe anyone an excuse for you weight loss. You chose to take a hold of your life and move onto a newer healthier one.
Don't let what people say about you hurt you.
If this person is even a friend I would do spring cleaning and get rid of him.
You are getting stronger and do not need any bull**** like this.
Agreed on letting it go, but easier said than done. Idk how it is in the position you're in... But that IS protected health information & it's none of their da#n business! I can understand the want to defend yourself as well. Entirely inappropriate question, entirely unprofessional, entirely insensitive. Know that that's their problem not yours! Ignorance just falls out of people's mouths sometimes. This experience has the potential to make you stronger. Let it do that, don't get down bc of some ignorant question. Good job & good luck!
on 6/6/17 8:24 am
I remember when I had lost a lot in the beginning someone asked me if I had cancer. I remember I was very upset. I asked them why do I look that way?
It is good to come here and vent. We understand what it is like to have had problems like this. Unless someone else had WLS or has been overweight or obese. They really can not relate.
No one has done this to me... but I hope if it ever happens I'm witty enough to come back with something like "Yeah, I have AIDS, and I screwed your wife last week" (only I'd so use the F word!)
He's an ass... don't let him get to you.
Height 5'5" HW 260 SW 251 CW 141.6 (2/27/18)
RNY 5-16-16 Pre-Op 9lbs, M1-18.5lbs, M2-18.1lbs, M3-14.8lbs, M4-10.4lbs, M5-9.2lbs, M6-7lbs, M7-6.2lbs, M8-8.8lbs,M9-7.8lbs, M10-1 lb, M11-.6lbs, M12-4.4lbs
