How do you feel when people ask you how much you've lost?
I have people tell me all the time how "good" I look, but whenever someone asks me how much I've lost, it makes me somewhat uncomfortable. I know that I should be proud of the 145 lbs. (as of my doctor's visit in March - it's more than that, but I don't weigh myself) I've lost, but part of me hates revealing that number to everyone. Does anyone else feel weird when people ask how much?
on 5/24/17 4:33 am
I never-ever tell people how much I have lost. None of your damn business!
Maybe I should adopt a different attitude, but I still live in the land of being more embarrassed of the high weight, than proud of the low weight.
But I don't get defensive, I just jokingly say, "A LOT!" and laugh a little, and they drop it. They'd have to be really assholy to insist on a number if you deflect like that.
And for some people that are rude and clueless- if they ask me again - I smile and I ask "why do you need to know that? "
Hala. RNY 5/14/2008; Happy At Goal =HAG
"I can eat or do anything I want to - as long as I am willing to deal with the consequences"
"Failure is not falling down, It is not getting up once you fell... So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again...."
on 5/24/17 4:59 am
I hate when people ask me. I feel awkward. I tell them that i have lost a lot, and that I really don't keep track. I am focusing on how good I feel and how much energy I have.
Whether the motive or not, people outside of immediate family who felt they had the prerogative to ask such a question were probably trying to calculate in their head how much I must have weighed at my highest. Following are possible future responses for your consideration: "medical staff is keeping track of numbers for me so I can concentrate on getting healthy," "that is a question I don't care to answer," "why do you want to know?" or simply "a lot." In retrospect, I wish I had evaded the question altogether because it doesn't even deserve acknowledgement.
on 5/24/17 5:32 am
Between, "How much have you lost?" and "How do you feel?" I would really like to throat punch some of them. I mean I guess I can understand that they are trying to be supportive but why does it matter?