"Old Fashioned" "Natural" or "Will Power" Judgy People

I got a lot of that too even from doctors. I just knew they were wrong and if they were right I didn't want them to ruin the right now. I loved being pregnant. He was my last good egg.

I'm glad you got your precious daughter.

Like people know things are painful. And they still say horrible things.

My daughter is beautiful. She is 21 and is a great human.

Just a little semantic thing.

I'm MO. That's my category. I've never not been successful. There is an assumption that that's the way I "should" feel.

The comments that the reason they did this is that they are bitter about their "failure" feed into that attitude. They were asshats.

I'm gonna love my body until my last day no matter what I weigh. I will judge no one by a number least myself.

I'm happy for your success and also being out in the public.

Dang! So true. I hadn't even thought about that. I totally assumed. My bias is in there for sure. Great heads up. I will try to watch myself on that one. Feel free to poke my rib in the future if I miss it or any other biases. It is always hardest to see our own lenses.

Thank you!

~E

I love this about you so much Deb. You were my inspiration many times. I've probably bored you to tears telling you about that so I won't do it again. But thanks for helping me learn to let up on myself a little.

I'll never be a size zero - even when I was much younger and healthier and way before I could have imagined WLS I was a size 6 at 5'9" - and because of you I've accepted that and am finally working on not seeing it as some kind of a moral failure.

Lady Lithia once called the scale a "stupid box on the floor with numbers". Because of your example I am close to adopting that opinion. Not quite there but I can see it off in the distance. Thank you. =)

Lady Lithia hasn't been around for awhile. I hope she is doing well.

me too! She was definitely a favorite of mine. =)

So, I had a different-yet-similar experience.

When I was first considering WLS, my doc who I had been with for 2+ years was super against it to the point she wouldn't even discuss it. I had to switch docs to try and get someone to even have a conversation with me about it, tried another which led to one of my worst experiences with a health care provider in my entire life. Eventually I found a doc who said "I don't know if you'd be a good candidate, I'll refer you to talk to the docs who specialize in it and find out if you ARE a good candidate."

I think the similar part is that you were in company where you don't expect that negative backlash, and then you got it, which leaves us unprepared to deal with the surprise of the comments.

All I can say is, it stinks. I totally understand that from the mentioned experience and others, and I'm sorry you had a slew of negative experiences. I am just trying to hold on to the fact that I know for me that I've make the right choice.

Wow!! I've experienced major **** from people about other things that floors me but these are...insane. Like these people need to tear you down to feel better insane.

Fuck 'em.