What's On Your Tuesday Menu, RNYers?

So sorry for your loss.  So sorry for the crappy choices you now have to make that were not your doing.  If I could get a recipe for that chili dog casserole I would send it immediately.

So sorry you're going through this.

I'm so sorry, Elizabeth!  I can understand that even though you weren't close, how it would hit you hard and dredge up all the old memories.  Take care of yourself and know that we're here for whatever you need!

((((Hugs!))))

I'm so sorry... I only can imagine the mixed feelings you have going on here. If it were me in your situation, I would probably want to go through his stuff, only to see if there were letters or diaries that I could read to to try and gain insight into his life, and perhaps help with the healing/dealing process. However, Tennessee is a long drive from TX, and your major focus is you, those kiddo's and the Hubby, so not to be able to do that is understandable.

If you can donate his body to science, go that route. They will do a simple cremation afterwards, and it didn't cost us anything when my (old) fiance's estranged father passed away. Of course, it may not be feasible either. Keep in mind, the body is just a vessel, and the brother you knew is long gone. Don't fret over that part.

Hang in there!!! I imagine the memories are bittersweet 

The donate to science route is a no go.  They require that no autopsy is done and by the time I got ahold of a person in the M.E.'s office the autopsy was already mostly done. I am talking with some aunts and uncles I haven't spoken to in many years and they seem to be willing to chip in for cremation.  Looks like I might be able to manage that at least. Still not sure about his personal effects.  Trying to get the prison officials to respond is nearly impossible.  Hoping my uncle could be allowed to go pick up his stuff, he only lives four hours away so it would be much better. 

I am hanging in so hard I frickin' Tarzan. Uhg.

Hugs back to you

~E

Dear Elizabeth,

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your brother.  My heart and prayers are with you at this difficult time.  

Oh, Elizabeth! Sending hugs your way. Death brings up so much junk so I feel for you. My dad died two years ago and it threw me for a loop. I wish I had loved him better but all I can do now is love better in the here and now. Praying for you!

I'm so sorry.

my DH is Sagittarius- very much the same

I'm so sorry for your loss. Condolences to you and your family. You're in my thoughts and prayers.

I'm so sorry E. We don't get to choose our families, but we love them regardless if we are lucky. Prayers and thoughts your way as your navigate through this. My casserole is zucchini with cheese. It's delicious.