feeling sorry for myself

I'm not writing cuz I want all of you to give me compliments, etc. I just need to get this out in the universe because I'm frustrated and sad, and need to get it off my chest. I teach second grade, and today during math group time a student came to me to tell me . "________ isn't doing his work, and he's telling everyone you're fat."

I just thought I'd be past that by now. I feel like I've gone backwards a million steps.  I know I want to lose some more weight, but I didn't feel overweight until now. I'm barely at a normal BMI so obviously I still have work to do. I just didn't think I needed to do that much more work. "Out of the mouths of babes..." as they say. I want to cry.

Heavy sigh. Yes, I know he's a little **** But, still...

Thanks for listening.

I'm sorry. I have kids and they just will casually say something about my weight. They are little, and they say it in the same vein as they might talk about my brown hair or something. It still brings out my inner 6th grader that was bullied all those years ago. I also have an 11yo autistic son who makes rude comments...working on that...and he is overweight too, so I have to bite my tongue not to say, "Oh yeah! Look in the mirror buddy!" Lol. 

I say cry, go to the washroom and have a good cry, I always feel better after I cry, I look like crap but I feel better LOL

Now look at your weight loss Teach, you have done amazing.  YOU ARE NOT FAT!

It really really makes me terribly sad that a second grader already has the wherewithal to throw insults but regardless I hope you realise its not true.  I am not saying in any way shape or form that this kids is a bully but I am using the "bully" analogy... what do bullies (young & old) use as their verbal ammo, our weaknesses.  If a person wears glasses you get called "four eyes"and are made fun of, if you are not wearing the right clothes you are made fun of,  come from a different country, have a accent you get made fun of etc etc etc. Kids can and are cruel.  You posted pictures the other day and you are tiny and look gorgeous.    This kid just picked up on your weakness.  I am pretty confident in saying that almost every woman out there has body image issues so calling a woman "fat" is probably going to hit you on some personal level since we all have issues with our bodies. 

Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, take a look back since December 23 2014 and see how far you have come. 

I am sorry he said this, its not nice and I am sure it hurts, but you know how hard you have worked and how far you have come, let it go okay, its not worth your time or effort to think about it anymore.

Sending HUGS 

Daisy 

**HUGS**

I work in childcare.  I get it.  

I've had many the little kid hug me and say, "why are you so fat?"  And I answer them, "Because people come in all shapes and sizes, wouldn't it be silly if we all looked exactly alike?"  They usually giggle and run off.

The key is believing this yourself.  You are NOT fat.  You have worked hard and have become so much healthier!  We are all so proud of you.  You need to believe that.  If you believe that, no words can hurt you.  If the child told you, "Johnny says your nose is blue", you would have laughed it off because of course your nose is not blue.

You are not fat.  Don't let anyone convince you that you are.

Good job for putting it out here, I hope you feel better-if not please take a break!

You are at the hardest part of the RNY weight loss journey.  The end of the honeymoon.  Losing weight and keeping it off now will be much harder than it was a year ago.  You have lots of hard work ahead of you.

It is doable, but not easy like after it is after surgery.

Now is the time to invest in a digital food scale, a smart scale, and to start using My Fitness Pal to track everything.  To drop a pound a week, you need to take in 500 less calories a day than you need to maintain.

I maintain 140 pounds at 1400 calories a day and I cut down to 900 calories a day to lose one pound a week.  I count the weeks on my calendar and know what I should weigh each week and which day will be my day to hit goal.

I know this is hard and I still remember the first time a friend told me I was gaining weight again.  Everyone else took my side and told her that she was wrong, but in my heart I knew that I was gaining and had to do something about it.  I tried Weigh****chers, different foods, talked with my dietitian and surgeon.  I finally realized that the only thing that works for me is weighing daily, tracking all food and cutting calories. 

Set your new goal and work to achieve it.  You will be so thankful that this little brat inspired you to do it.

White Dove

I weigh and track everything. I have used My Fitness Pal for the last 560 days. I track EVERYTHING. I have had to fight for every pound that I have lost.  I eat between 800 and 900 calories a day. On my BAD days, I reach 1000. I eat below 30 carbs a day. I do water aerobics, yoga, circuit training and weight training. What else do I do? 

According to what you've said, I should be losing a pound a week. I am NOT.  I'm doing everything that the vets say I should do, but I'm not budging.  Please don't tell me I'm not being honest, because I truly am. If you have advice, please let me know.

I don't have any advice for you. I just wanted to say that I get it. I am honest in my weighing and tracking . I eat between 7-900 calories a day and less than 50 carbs ... In a normal world I should be losing at least 2 lbs per week, but have a rny and I'm still poking along at 1 lb per week.... Except the last few weeks... Nothing. Your not alone. I don't know what the answer is. My next step is to call my dr and request blood work . Maybe thyroid problems ? Idk. I'm at a loss . I also get the feeling you get when a kid calling you fat, my granddaughter said I was a little fat the other day. Kinda crushing but I'm working on it... It's all I can do . It's extremely frustrating . According to some rnyers they could not even try and be dropping lbs . Not me . I'm only 4 months out next week and down 28 lbs . 

It's amazing that you have it worked out so well, exactly what you need to maintain and lose.

My 2 year old Granddaughter up till a month ago used to ask me whenever she saw me, when the baby was coning out of my tummy.

Now I think she wonders where it went. . .LOL

All we can do is grin and move on.