Bless YOUR heart. Don't protest you aren't flouncing--you are. Otherwise, you could simply skedaddle without one last attempt to cause a tempest in a teapot.

Here's where we, the ones you've basically told to **** off, and you differ: if you come back in a year or three, we'll still try to help you. If you could see your way to being open minded for one post, you would see you were given a lot of good advice, which you chose to interpret as attacks and us telling you you are terrible.

HI!

Why not just block the ones that were hateful?

That way you still keep the good, you can continue to get advice, and just sort of let the rest "go"?

There's really no reason why you should feel that you have to "explain yourself."  No one would have noticed your sudden departure until you chose to bring attention to it.  

I can absolutely see where you are coming from.  I would like to think people are coming from a helpful place--in fact, I have to believe it or it would anger me--but the reality is anonymity breeds cynicism and hate.  (Plus, some people just have all of the answers, don't they?)  I wish you the best of luck and wish you the best! ^.^

Wow ...  I just joined this group and am amazed at the number of responses and reactions to Cheremiste's post. First, I wish you wouldn't go because it looks like you have been having some real success and can be an inspiration for others (like me, who has yet to have the surgery!) Next, I would say that people's responses differ so much, in tone and content as well as interpretation, that there will be good and bad. For example, I understood what you (Cheremiste) were saying about looking for a man (person) who is fit --- because a person with obesity issues, of any kind, could trigger your old behavior. On the other hand, you might be cutting yourself off from wonderful people if you don't consider all types of bodies.

I guess you won't see this post, but maybe others will ... it's a reminder to me that I need to accept any viewpoints for what they are: Posts written quickly, often off the top of one's head, and not always as gentle as one might like. For the most part, thought, I think people here just want everyone to succeed in this complicated, emotional and physical journey.