Unwanted attention

I have men come up to me when my husband is right there. I had one guy come up to me in the airport who we met the night before at a function and he said I have a breakfast sandwich for you. Not one for my husband just me. Wierdo.

I had one follow me at the hotel through Starbucks to tell me I had the most beautiful eyes. I said thank you. So does my husband. 

I do have attention when I walk in the morning. I do wear exercise wear that is clingy. I try not to look at anyone. 

If someone gives you a compliment just say thank you. Or if it is pig like just walk away. 

I still have a problem with male attention.  Since I am older it doesn't happen much any more but when it does it makes me uncomfortable.

I have always had a problem saying no.  I am so worried about hurting others feelings that I ignore my own.

I tell people that the only reason I married my first husband is because I didn't have the nerve to tell him that I didn't want to marry him after all the arrangements were made.  I wish to god I had, though I wouldn't have my 3 wonderful kids if I had.

I am getting better.  The other day some guy asked if I was married and I said no, but I have a boyfriend and he replied "What does that mean for us?"  Huh?  I just told him that I wasn't interested in dating anyone else.  Then I wanted to apologize and tell him I didn't mean to reject him, lol.  What I did do was thank him and tell him I was flattered.

I guess there is an art to rejecting someone without seeming to reject them.  I hope I figure it out someday.

I came by my resting ***** face naturally, no need to adopt here!  I'm pretty oblivious to most things--it takes a pretty obvious flirt for me to realize what's going on--so I haven't really noticed a ratcheting up of attention.  I did get flirted with the other day by the guy at the nutrition shop when I was getting protein powder.  My married last name doesn't match my ethnicity, so he did whole, "xxxx, are you Spanish?" thing.  I only recognized it because a few years ago I had a guy at the brake shop ask me if xxx was my married name.  Ha!

It doesn't really bother me too much when it does happen, but I haven't had anyone come on really strong, either.  

Jen

You are becoming visible. There is a line. The whole world is just a little nicer. The smiles a little bigger. Doors are getting held open. I've danced on both sides of the line. You will figure it out. It feels good to be looked upon as something desired instead of ignored or loathed. 

I think it's an interesting phenomena and it's a lot about unspoken/unseen discrimination and hate. The world is nicer when you are thinner. It's just a fact.