Unwanted attention

How people interact with me has definitely changed... Men -young and old as well as women hold the door for me wayyyy more often going in and out of stores and things.

I have had a few men I know say like -Oh I want to see you in a bathing suit ....

People I have know forever- like friends of my siblings- are way more friendly and talkative to me....

Some of it may have been the vibes I was sending out before....

Glad your hubby said something though...

And you are a beautiful woman even though you have more weight to lose...

I'm sure some of it is flirting, but some is probably just people being friendly. We seem to have trouble recognizing the difference. I do think we put out a different vibe when we lose weight and feel better about ourselves. People are more drawn to us. My dad was a big talker. He loved chit-chatting with everyone no matter where we were. It was not flirting. He was just being friendly.

The mental part is the hardest. It does get better as time goes by.

"Super weird?"  no  "Adopt a ***** face?"  impossibility for you   "Do you need therapy?" absolutely not  "Encountered this?"  sort of, I was used to people staring or quickly looking away so interaction from anybody was strange  "Advice?"  yes, mostly secure your DH confidence you will never stray but leave out telling him you don't mind the attraction you now possess.  Have fun with it.

Yeah it's weird.  As long as you keep the hubris in check, it can be a confidence booster.  Eh, enjoy it.  

Without sounding like an obnoxious **** I am most often the center of attention because who doesn't love an English accent?  Sometimes it's flirting, but often it's just attention and I hear "I love your accent" daily.  I'm very outgoing, so lap it up.  Drives my bf nuts lol

Funny story, many years ago, my son and I were in a drive through.  I ordered our meal and then had to repeat it because the young man was flustered.  When we got to the window, he was gushing at me, flirting etc and my son leaned across me and said "Dude, that's my mom!"

Enjoy your new found attention, unless it gets to be obnoxious.  You're very pretty and come across really well on here, so I imagine you're a cutie in real life!

Nope, not weird.  Yes, I have had the same issue.  Yes, it does get less annoying after a while.  Once you have gotten used to it you will notice it less.  I think the most annoying is when people go out of there way to tell my Guy, "You better watch out I might steal her from you." For real people?  First, I am not a thing that can be stolen. Second, I was worth stealing before you just are being creepy now. 

I do find that my Guy has struggled with the fear that he thinks now I might leave him for someone else.  I remind him when he says something like that, "Trust me, if I had wanted to leave you for someone else I was MORE than able to find a new person.  I wasn't with you then because I was too unattractive to find a date or had no options.  I am not staying with you now because I have no options.  I am staying because you are the person I want to get old with." That usually helps him re-center and feel better for a while.

~Elizabeth

Do not adopt resting ***** face. 

I guess you get used to it after awhile, I still find remarks amusing, one comes to mind where the owner of a large local nursery told my husband wow you got yourself a "looker".  Thankfully the remarks are usually directed at my husband about my looks then directly to me. Maybe because he is 6'4 they fear he may squash them if they say it to me. lol

 When I am alone I try to always make eye contact and smile and say hello to people but I don't linger or make small talk just go about my life.

Congrats on your success.

I totally understand your feelings. I was also a little freaked out at first. However for Me, it's way better than the negative energy that I used to get from men when I was MO.

Keep up the good work because you look amazing.

You're attractive-- I think the attention is unavoidable. LOL @ resting ***** face- that seems to be my norm-- which is why every line a guy tries to run on me starts with "smile". 

I've been asked out directly once- was flattered but just told him I'm married. Oddly I get the most attention when i go running-- like I'm gonna break my pace for some random dude to run his lines on me??