What is on your Wednesday Menu RNYers?

Shame on the woman who yelled at your son! People have no idea, do they?

you are a good mommy :)

I had bad acne as a teenager, and after multiple failed attempts at antibiotics that did not work the Dermatologist finally prescribed Accutane. Worked miracles!  Acne gone!  Not sure if your Son can take the Accutane along with the testosterone but something to look into if you have not already.

Please tell your Son how incredibly brave he is for following his heart and doing this for him. I am in tears just thinking of what he has had to endure... and you deserve a medal for your unwavering love and support.  Thank you for sharing 

Big hugs to you!  Thank you.

I will check into what he can take after surgery.  I know his doctor really wanted to try topical stuff first to avoid putting more meds into him.  Hoping that once the surgery heals we can really get the topical stuff on-board and see where we are.  Also just being able to have his skin open to circulation once he is binder-free may really help.  Will keep ya' posted.

~Elizabeth

I have to say I probably would have hurt someone that day if they called me kid a freak.  It's sad that people like that are allowed to breed in this day and age.  This makes me so angry.

I will be thinking of you both. Stay strong mama!!  I forgot about teacher, we played that a lot too! ETA: You don't know how bad I wanted an overheard projector, I asked Santa for one at least 5 times but never got it!

Sending good thoughts and prayers to you and your son. I can imagine that transitioning is a difficult thing all around.  This i****ting close to home for me, since just on the 4th of July I found out that my cousins oldest just came out to her as transgender.  I don't know what name she is going by now, since I haven't seen her in years.  She cut all ties with my cousin a few years ago and never told anyone why.  When my cousin tried to reach out to her, there was total avoidance.  Well, finally after pushing and pushing, they got together last month.  Now, my cousin is just okay with this type of thing, and I think she is trying to have an open mind, but she keeps slipping back and calling her child by her birth name, and my cousin was in tears because she is afraid of doing something to alienate her more.  My cousin loves her child so much and wants nothing for the best for her, and I know that they will work it out.  I am not supposed to know about it, but her daughter lives 10 minutes from me, I really want to reach out to give her support, but I also don't want to cross any lines or make anything difficult for either of them.  

There are lots of really great online resources.  Educating yourself as a family member and for your cousin as a parent is the best way to start.  It is really overwhelming at first.  I struggled with it plenty.  I had to grieve the 'loss' of my daughter before I could really understand my son. I always love him but it was a process to accept. 

Here is a great place to start...

http://familyproject.sfsu.edu/resources

The most important thing to know from the Family Project is they did a very well designed research study and showed that although transgender people have frighteningly high rates of suicide and other terrible outcomes, family support can and does mitigate much of that. By supporting their child your cousin, and you, literally can save their life. Some studies show that 70% of transgender people attempt suicide at some point in their lifetime.  Learning to use a different name or pronoun for your child is better than losing them entirely.   

This book is great too.  

http://www.thegenderbook.com/

~Elizabeth

Best of luck for your son surgery.  Hope he will recover quickly.  

I loved playing teacher as well. 

Good luck mama. It's hard to watch them go in to surgery.