What is on your Wednesday Menu RNYers?

I'm always home so the key to me is staying busy. Here are some of my pasttimes: knitting,cleaning,word search puzzles,reading,organizing a closet or something,exercising,take the kiddo outside to play anything but eating. I can't keep certain foods like no sugar added ice cream around. Sweets are a trigger for me so I've not had any since surgery.

hey yall

not much going on- truck back in shop- damn fuel something- so another $300- but at least it won't be sucking down gas anymore.

camper is in progress of being painted. It will be aqua and white. getting so enxious- really want to take it out but it is not ready yet. I'm a very impatient person. nevermind I stil haven't finished making the curtains but I want to complain about it instead.

i made 8  jars of pickles last night- the yoga teacher brought in cucumbers to the paddleboarding so I didnt' want them to waste and I don't like cucumbers. lol

qotd: I liked mother may I, simon says, and another fun one where we filled up yard trash bags with water and playd in them- oh slip n slide!!

been feeling antsy lately- not quite sure what that is about- but I'm not exercising (jogging/yoga) as much- maybe that is it. Its just hot and yes I know these are excuses.

Here is what I ate yesterday:

B: no oat meal/carbmaster milk/decaf/miralax

L: grilled chic/zuchinni/tiny amount low sugar poasta sauce

D:Turkey chili/zuchinni

S:kays naturals cookies/carbmaster yogurt.reddi whip/pickles

totals cal :706

prot: 81

carb:51 (chili beans and prot cookies)

Good morning Starshine! Wheee...Wednesday is here and the week has been wild. Very busy with work because I am taking tomorrow and Friday off.  My 15 yo son is having surgery Friday and tomorrow we head to Plano for his pre-op appointment. This momma is super nervous but happy for him as well.  He will be having chest reconstruction so it is a big surgery and I am a worrier. I trust his doctor, he is considered one of the best in the world, but I still am going to fret until he is through it. I have mentioned before that my son is transgender and this is his top surgery.  For him this is really a life saving surgery.  Wearing a binder constantly has caused him some serious problems and with this he will finally be free of that.  His body will be one big step closer to being a whole healthy representation of who he is. I'm happy...but did I mention nervous too? Wish us luck.

QOTD: Teacher!  That is what I played anytime I could talk my friends into it.  I would spend hours hand writing out 'dittos' for my friends to do for 'classwork.' I would make them all sit in pretend desks and do their work.  I look back and laugh because I was a bossy little thing and always loved teaching.

Menu:

B: Trying a new thing.  Chobani Plain Greek yogurt (1 cup) with a Simply Love Granola (1/4 cup) It is 280 calories with 26 protein! Big breakfast...I will let you know how it goes.

L: Grilled chicken (1/4 breast) and a tortilla

D: Ham steak and green beans

S: Cheese stick, grapes

Totals: Calories 736, Protein 74, Carbs 62, Fat 15

I am sending prayers and mojo your way (and your Son's of course).  Wearing a binder sounds horribly uncomfortable, and I am SO HAPPY that your Son will be one step closer to being his true self!!!   I am a worrier also, I feel you!

Few people really think about what it might be like to wear a binder unless they have a transman close in their lives. Some examples:

For high school marching band the summer band practice includes cardio and warm up sessions throughout.  He has passed out several times because when his heart rate goes up (like it should for cardio) he can't expand his chest enough to take in enough oxygen to keep up with the demands of his body.  He is a tough little guy and so he tries to push through like the other kids and ends up falling out.

Testosterone causes acne, especially on your back, so for the past year while on T he has had severe acne all over his upper body that is made worse by the lack of air and the contestant pressure.  Every time he puts on a shirt or sits down I see him wince in pain because of the pain from the cysts and pimples.

The doctor has prescribed topical medication but he is unable to have anyone be in the room with him if he doesn't have a binder on and he can't reach most of his back himself...so that didn't help much.  

He never takes off his binder unless he is in his room with the door locked.  That alone is pretty isolating and stressful.

Swimming? Nope...binders constrict more in water so swimming could pretty much be a fatal mistake.

Shirts Vs Skins?  Not so much.  Beginning of school they had all the freshman boys line up in the gym in one line, girls in another right next to them, and told the boys to all take off their shirts for a scoliosis exam. My kid was outted because he couldn't take off his shirt. It was a mess.  I had a mother in the stands scream at me across the gym that my kid was a "freak" and "shouldn't be allowed to just pick what she is." It was awful.

The lymph nodes under his arms are compressed and who know what sort of issues that might cause for him down the line.

Trust me... the list goes on.  I find it so exhausting that some people think that trans kids are doing this because of a trend or fashion thing.  Believe me...there is nothing easy about any of what he has gone through. He is my hero. I just keep stressing and worrying and doing anything I can to help. I wish I could do more to make it easier for him. 

I think I am rambling because I am so nervous about the surgery so reminding myself of why this is the very best thing for him is helping.  Thanks for listening. Especially online it can be really scary to talk about transgender issues.  People can be ugly.  It is really a joy that you all have been so supportive.  Thank you for listening.

~Elizabeth the Nervous

I sending you and your son some virtual hugs today.   

You are seriously the best Mom your Son could ever ask for!! I want to kiss you   

I don't even know what I would do in a situation where someone was calling my child a freak.....I am not a violent person, and think it doesn't really solve anything, but I would have to really hold myself back. 

I cannot even say that I know what you and your Son are going through, but believe me when I say that I am so so so happy that he has the parent's he has, that will take him a long way!! 

Awww thank you!  To ease your wanting to pounce I can say it was at least that the lady was yelling at me.  My son was way on the other side of the gym at that moment so although he asked what the lady was yelling about later he didn't have to directly hear it.  

I about lost my mind.  My Guy turned to her and bluntly in a stern level voice said, "I feel sorry for you that you feel that way." Then he wrapped his arm around me and turned me back around. She didn't say anything more and he was right to defuse it.  I wanted to light her up verbally and punch her in her nose. In the end I am glad I didn't.

~E

You've got to be the best mom ever,E! I'm so proud of both you and your son. I would have punched the Chick in the face I'm pretty sure. How can people be so cruel?