Just irritation or something more?

Thank you for sharing this story. I think when we can be honest and put some real life issues out here to discuss it helps us all. This journey is not only something we have to deal with, the people close to us are on it with us and at times it can get stressful. I think that if you have the opportunity to have an honest chat with him about how this made you feel and possibly explain that you've attempted to not have this process "rule" your household  so when you do talk about it, you feel it is something significant. I know for me and my hubby, sometimes when we are discussing something I will tell him from the beginning whether or not I am asking for suggestions or just needing someone to listen.... Not sure if that even makes sense but it seems to work for us. Just my thoughts, hang in there it does get better. Hugs!!

I'm sorry that he was being insensitive, the best part is he had realized he was being insensitive and acknowledged that with an apology which speaks volumes. I am guilty of over talking my journey and my hubby has pulled me up on being like a dog with a bone lol about my WLS journey. I must say I was rather hurt by that comment humorous or not lol (which he DID not apologize). He is very supportive of the whole process and is aware it is a journey I need to take to live a longer healthier life but it can be very overwhelming at times. This is a very big change in our lives and I am the type of person who needs to talk through the whole process and since I have joined this forum ( everyone on here is amazing very supportive and informative) I have been able to give his ears a break :-). He is finding the process to be long and says he is looking forward to me actually getting the surgery done to move onto the next steps (which is coming to a close soon I have my surgeon appointment in a few weeks and will be given my surgery date). I just tell him that I need for him to be aware and included in this journey.       

Best of luck   

I'm sorry this happened. I might be able to give the male perspective on this. He's a hoop's fan I bet. He's in a lather about the upcoming game 7 today. He's a Warriors fan, and he's worried about them getting smoked today? Or...he watched all 10 hours of "O.J. made in 'merica". And he was bummed to realize that, yes O.J. did it. Or...sometimes even the thought of our lovely wives being in harms way, makes us so insecure and uncertain, that we temporarily lose our ability to just put that into words.

You guys sound like a great couple, I've seen your pics too. You look very happy as well. I think it was really cathartic for you to just write it all down, and get it out of you. I think it will blow over and all will be great as usual. 

Guys are like onions, not the layer stuff. But, we stink, and most girls have to get used to us over time. 

I wish you guys the best.

OMG LOL Gary so very well said :-)

Gary, this reply is amazing!  I will have to share this with my husband as well. :-) Thank you!

I try to refrain from blabbing too much about my weight loss or complain to my DH. he has told me before not always talk about it. while he is my 'support' person, he has never been to my support group and this does disappoint me. I get the most support from you guys anyway...

My family may have gotten irritated at me today about it - for fathers day I made bbq chicken, broccoli, shrimp, mac and cheese, cole slaw, corn, baked beans- (I was good )...then for dessert there was angel food cake, strawberries and whipped cream. Then they were asking me if I was having any and I was trying to explain myself but then I just said it could make me very ill so I will pass.

If you are not taking Vit d3 (dry only) you might want to get it- I got mine from amazon

don't be surprised if you have to possibly have an iron infusion down the road. I had one last summer before my surgery.

People do not like change. He may be scared of the changes that are happening. Relationships are not easy. Just take one day at a time.